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hwhitUser is Offline

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03/10/2009 11:08 PM  

I am a virgin and am getting married soon - no date set yet. Because I am a virgin I want to read a book or two close to my wedding night to get a better idea of what the wedding night/honeymoon will be like and how to perform in the bedroom. I am just kind of clueless.

Does anyone have any book suggestions? Thanks
Julie FidlerUser is Offline

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03/18/2009 4:44 PM  
And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh

A Celebration of Sex by Douglas Rosenau
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03/27/2009 3:31 AM  
Congratulations on staying a virgin until you are married.  I did too.  Glad to see I'm not a loner in that regard.

Sex isn't a performance, so don't take out the heart/emotion out of loving your wife there.  And its also actually fun not being a total expert and making love.  You'll do fine.

Type5

p.s unless you wear a condom that is too tight honeymoon night . . .
johnUser is Offline

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09/07/2011 6:19 PM  
Hey you dont NEED a book, if you want to get one thats not tainted with worldly poison.

At any rate you really dont need one, you are trying to tell me that all the things you and your husband to be have been warring against your flesh to deny wont just happen on its own, I think that will just take care of itself, LOL!

thats like having a bucket of gasoline and a lit candle and looking for a manual on "fire". to your confusion the only thing the manual says is "LET GO"

Enjoy and protect Gods blessing for marriage

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09/13/2011 10:01 PM  
I would highly recommend "A Celebration of Sex" and I would not wait until close to the honeymoon to start reading it. It is about a lot more than just sex. It is about the whole relationship and written from a christian perspective. It even references scripture to back up what it has to say. I wish had gotten it before I was married.

Unfortunately John is wrong. It does not always just happen. I am now going through a divorce and believe this book could have made a difference if I had gotten it before the marriage was over. I don't want to scare you, but this is something that I wish Christians could be more open about. My wife and I (both virgins) were not able to have sex the 1st night of our honeymoon. It was extremely painful for her. I did what I thought was the right thing and just told her that I loved her and it was okay. I told her that sex wasn't why I married her and that we would get through it. We had a wonderful time on our honeymoon, but still were unable to have sex. I thought it was just a matter of time and stretching. This is a very long story, so I will get to the point. She made no effort to get help because she was embarrassed. She wouldn't even tell her gynecologist. After 7 years and 5 months of marriage, without ever having sex, I told her I wanted a divorce. She begged me to go to counseling so that even if the marriage couldn't be fixed they could help me understand that it wasn't me. We went to counseling and were sent to a specialist who made it possible for us to have sex after we had been married 7 years 7 months and 7 days. The problem is that it was too late. If you read the "For Women Only" you can start to imagine what this has done to me. If there is a problem don't panic. Just get help. It is much more embarrassing explaining that this is why you are getting a divorce than it would have been to get help years ago.
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