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David
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| 11/24/2009 7:14 PM |
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guys mature much slower than girls. I believe the exact age is about 2 years behind. so at 16, he'll still have the mindset of a 14 year old. I'm definitely not saying that every guy on the face of the Earth fits this description. but with every guy I've met, it's true! and I keep that in mind, not to be judgemental with guys, but in order to give them more grace.
No, no, no, no... No... no no no no no no no no no.
No.
That belief is reflective of how the anti-male cultural bias affects science. Girls are not more mature than boys. In many ways, girls are less mature than boys. I hate that stereotype. All it does is give girls a big head and makes them far more judgmental and holier-than-thou. |
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artyprincess
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| 11/25/2009 4:12 AM |
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True. I know some guys that are way more mature than girls of the same age.
The one stereotype I've come across recently is the 'Teenagers think they're bulletproof'. That one really annoys me! |
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David
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| 11/25/2009 9:15 AM |
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| I always hated that too. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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Adelynn
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| 11/25/2009 10:33 AM |
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| in what ways, David, are girls less mature than boys? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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David
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| 11/25/2009 2:46 PM |
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Conflict resolution, to name one.
Ever see the movie Mean Girls? It was based on a non-fiction study of girls in high school. You'd never see guys act like that.
In fact, if you were to compare the culture of girls (meaning, how girls act towards each other... "girl world") to the culture of boys, I think you'd find that the boys' culture is far healthier. There's less aggression (remember, aggression is much more than just physical), less grudge holding, less completely destroying other people, less shallowness (for instance, guys never dress up to impress other guys: we only do it to impress girls... whereas girls will dress up to impress guys but also other girls... girls actually put more stock in outward appearance than guys, it seems), less rumor spreading, less gossip, less overall fighting, less drama, less co-ruminating, and, actually, more authentic communication. Guys get the (unfair) reputation of being bad communicators, when this is not actually true. There was a study - cited in the excellent book Love and Respect - that took pairs of best friends of the same gender, put them in a room one pair at a time and studied how they communicated. There were middle-aged pairs of best friends, young adult pairs of best friends, sixteen year old pairs of best friends, and around nine year old pairs of best friends, all having a pair of each gender. Which pair do you think had the most open, authentic level of communication? Probably one of the female groups, right? Wrong. It was the sixteen year old boys.
I'm not trying to say that guys mature faster than girls. What I am trying to say is this. Girls mature faster in qualities p, q, and r, whereas guys mature faster in qualities x, y, and z. However, due to a cultural bias towards females, when studying the maturation process, only qualities p, q, and r are considered and qualities x, y, and z are ignored. This gives the (very false) impression that girls mature faster than boys, when it is that they only mature faster in certain areas than boys, and boys mature faster in other areas than girls. The overall level of maturation is equal. |
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clare
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| 11/25/2009 9:13 PM |
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The concept that girl mature faster than boys is true, but people are over looking the age factor. A 6 month old bably girl is usually more "mature" than a 6 month old baby boy. A 1 year old girl is usually more advanced than a 1 year old boy. It is like that until about 4 or 5 years old in most cases. After that they're about the same. Also what people are confusing is the growth spurt around 12 yeasr old. A girl matures physically faster than a boy. Between 11 and 12 a girl does most of her growing in height while a boy grows between 13 and 16. I think people tend to take all the girls mature more than boys too far into the mental aspect.
I totally understand what you're saying, but God made girls to be different than guys. Though I can't say in most ways better. I hate it how girl (and i am a girl) tear apart people behind their backs, they gossip, seek revenge, and can ruin a guy's reputation. you can't degrade all the famale sex because we dress to impress eachother. Girls have to be different than guys in some ways other than looks!
You made some good points, and after reading it I realized why once agian I would rather have a guy friend than a bunch of girls. Girls get on my nerves if all they do is talk about clother, make up, guys, etc. Guys are so much more practical and not always under the influence of dramatic hormones. |
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Adelynn
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| 11/26/2009 6:36 PM |
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haha I understand what you meant now, and I completely agree. In high school I enjoyed hanging out with my guy friends so much more than my girlfriends, just because most of the girls were so catty.
But it really isn't always the case- I know some guys who remember every mistake I've ever made toward them, and many of the girls that I make the effort to know well aren't worried about being the most popular or beautiful or whatever (they certainly must think about it, but they aren't obsessed by it) |
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clare
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| 11/26/2009 7:43 PM |
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there's always the exception! Some times there's too many exceptions in one group |
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if uturnchic
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| 11/29/2009 3:59 PM |
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| Yeah I hate it how girls go behind other's backs and cut them down and are so mean to each other. That's the way most but not all girls are nowadays, and being a teenage girl, I get put into that stereotype sometimes, and I hate it. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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if uturnchic
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| 02/25/2010 7:31 PM |
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| he won't have anything to do with me now, so i guess i won't have to put up with it anymore. That's ok with me, becasue not seeing him for a while, i can see that he is not the one for me, and that I don't have to do anything to get the right guy (the one that God has for me) to like me. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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