Derek
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| 11/16/2008 8:55 PM |
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but i could use some now. i'll try and make this as short and painless as possible.
there's a girl in my chem. class (big lecture hall, like 60 students) and she sits in the back b/c she has to leave early. (she is a christian. i met her a while back at a christian college group, but she didn't remember my name). i looked at her facebook and she really seemed like a person...you get the picture. anyways, i finally talked to her and i'm sure i seemed like a total retard. anyways, i asked her if she wanted to sit with us (me and my friends) via facebook. that's when i learned that she had to leave early. she had this to say:
thanx, but I actually have to sit at the back because I need to leave at 8:50 on the dot in order to get to my next class ( she's often not done by then so I don't want to draw too much attention to myself) really nice of you to ask though
so now i don't know what to do. i would like to get to know her better. i haven't met many christians at my school. so, should i reply to her asking if she wants someone to walk with or what? any help would be nice. btw, she is single...i'm pretty darn sure. what would you want me to do if you were in her position?
thanks,
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smartblonde77
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| 11/16/2008 10:24 PM |
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Well you could say well i will sit with you and walk you to your next class... BUT that could seem a little dessperat for the fact if hes not done she will know whats going on and she might not like you at that point and may avoid you but if you take it slow find out what she likes to do what music, bands, and that kinda stuff don't move in too fast even if shelikes you don't push it to fast!
I Hope i helped!
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it's kinda crazy how time has a way of makein all these memories fade away so if theres only one thing you remember bout me remember that i loved you unconditionally! |
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Derek
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| 11/16/2008 11:45 PM |
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sorry, i couldn't really understand everything you said.
i'm not planning on starting a "relationship" anytime soon. i first want to be her friend. (btw, the teacher is a woman). |
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artyprincess
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| 11/17/2008 2:44 AM |
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I would say: Be careful not to be pushy. Try to keep talking to her, act like a friend. Be nice to her whenever the opportunity arises. Maybe see if you can sit with her at the back??
I don't know!!
And keep praying, if you need to be in her life now, God will make a way! |
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shutterbug99
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| 11/17/2008 9:54 AM |
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If you haven't already, let her know your a Christian. I think "most" Christian woman are looking for Christian men.
From her response, it looks like she left the door open, which is good. Keep talking to her. Maybe ask her to lunch; give her a Christmas card; or just do something thoughtful to let her know your interested. |
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Derek
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| 11/17/2008 4:00 PM |
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@ artyprincess:
am i being too pushy. to me, it doesn't seem like i have been pushy...but yes, i will def. keep praying
@shutterbug:
i'm pretty sure she knows i'm a christian. i made it pretty obvious (i reminded her that we first met at a christian club).
hmm, lunch. that's an idea, but i don't know what her schedule is like...
thanks for all the help so far  |
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JoJo
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| 11/17/2008 4:54 PM |
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i actually cant believe no one has said what im going to say yet, but here goes...
If you want to just be her friend, maybe dont be too forward yet, but seeing as she has to leave early to get to her next class, maybe offer to write notes for the part she misses... She may really appreciate the help, especially since she might be missing important info in those last few minutes of class... I know I'd really appreciate it!
That way you always have a reason to talk to her after class, to give her the notes etc...
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Sandy
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| 11/17/2008 6:45 PM |
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I suggest small talk. Just come up with a topic and go with it. Gradually increase your small talk to actual conversations. Get to know her little by little. If your next class is in the same direction as her next class then walk with her up to a certain point and ask her about her next class or the class ya'll both just went to. You can also invite her to other events your youth group may have or to other events at church. A smile will also help. Smile once in a while. A smile makes you feel welcoming and open.
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smartblonde77
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| 11/17/2008 10:32 PM |
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Ohhhhh sorry! um ya just don't be to pushy! a good way to talk if you have texting cuase a girl always has her phone! (if they have one  ) But thats a great idea Jojo! Try that!
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it's kinda crazy how time has a way of makein all these memories fade away so if theres only one thing you remember bout me remember that i loved you unconditionally! |
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/19/2008 3:19 PM |
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from what you are saying from my point of view as a girl i don't think i wood take it as a nagging point if you wood try again maybe she feels the same way about there not being any christians in the school. she might be more than willing to have some christian fellowship with you. unless she is not a a christian. good luck tho! i feel with you when you don't no about the love
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kaykays<3
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| 01/04/2009 8:24 PM |
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 I would say that follow jojos advice and (the other things girls said in the guys book. def. pray =) good luck. |
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**Search your heart, you know you can't deny it
Come on, lose your life just so you can find it
The Father gave his only son just to save us
**the day that true love died**
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Stupor
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| 01/07/2009 1:20 AM |
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| Man.....the things we stress about in life..........who knows, in time you might become tight friends....... |
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