Beckah
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| 01/03/2011 3:58 PM |
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Ok i have had 4 guys in the last 2 months tell me they like me and one of them asked me out(thats another story)so all of these guys are younger than me!! they are all 15 and im 17, its almost getting annoying. why am i attracting the younger guys? i really have a hard time with the whole age thing, now dont get me wrong they are all good and nice christians but i turn them down and than they seem to ignore me. I am friends with them, well not really anymore.. so what do i do bout it? if you want to know the other story ask me and i will gladly tell you. |
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clare
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| 01/04/2011 2:42 PM |
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| i would really have a problem if the guy was younger too!!! Are they thinking they can "score" if they get an older girl? Or are they tired of immature 15 yr old girls??!! I think it would be kinda hard for the guy to ask a girl out who is older than them, and being turned down is an added humiliation! hmmm it's not a dare is it?LOL |
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Dennix
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| 01/04/2011 11:43 PM |
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| I'm a guy, so maybe I can help. That's a hard one! But if you turned them down and they ignore you, that's a good resaon right there not to date them in the frist place. Maybe the other part of the story will help me come up with somthing if you don't mind. |
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Josh C.
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| 01/05/2011 3:30 AM |
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| Yeah, I see where your coming from, I'm really hooked on the whole age difference thing too. I would say ummmm, dont go out with them, just seems like a bad Idea |
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Beckah
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| 01/05/2011 2:12 PM |
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heres the story.......Ok I have really liked this one guy and he is 8 hours away, i only see him like a few times a year. so we text. one night he ask me if i wanted to be his gf and start dating and i said yes, but i talked to my parents and they said no. i was kinda sad because i really like this guy. so i told him i my parents said no and that it wont work out. he seemed sad so i said we are still going to be friends. he was fine with it. but than last week it clicked in my head that my parents said no dating but they dint say we could hang out and be bf and gf.. but would that be wrong to go bihind their backs? we still text and when we do we act as if we are like dating, like joke around bout what we say. half of me says stop and just be friends and let it all go, but the rest of me is like dont leave him you really like him! so im like ahhhhhhhhhh!!!
But anyways he is 16, which isnt that bad. i'm just one year older than him.
PS..Josh, you live in North Dakota?!?  i thought i was the only north dakotan on here. its nice to meet another north dakotan..lol ((i dont mean to sound like a creeper, if i did, sorry)) |
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Dennix
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| 01/05/2011 9:39 PM |
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| Well, I think it would be wrong to go behind your parents back. But I don't see anything wrong with being good friends. I would say pray about it. Things will work out if it's Gods will. |
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Dennix
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| 01/05/2011 9:51 PM |
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| Hey, I thought of another thing. Why did your perents say no. Is there something they don't like about him? |
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Beckah
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| 01/06/2011 12:46 PM |
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Ya know i dont really know why they said no.
PROS...we live 7 hours apart, he is a christian, his mom is my moms best friend, he is only 16 and im 17, he is very kind to his family and friends.....
CONS... he said well if you dont say yes than i do know lots of girls who would love to date me. i thought it was a bit imature, and if we were to date i wouldnt know if he is cheating on me.
my mom said to tell him if he really like/loved me than he would wait for me. but he said "since your parents saind no, than i could date other girls and maybe i would be ready for you later on, because the 1st girl i date i know wont be the one for me"
ok that made me a mad inside but i dont know what to think about it. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 01/06/2011 5:52 PM |
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| DON'T even think about it. |
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Dennix
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| 01/07/2011 12:42 AM |
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I think what he said sounds imature too.
Hey, don't worry about it God will work things out. |
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JoJo
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| 01/08/2011 4:00 AM |
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trust me i've SOOOO been there... my prob is I tend to like younger guys, but like 3 years younger MAX! as most of the older guys I know are total idiots. not all, but most...
but... Im 21, and I had 16 year olds... at camp, at youth you name it, be interested in me... YIKES! ok most of them were a bit gutted when I told them I was WAY too old for them and moved on, and we're still friends, but a few just dont get the hint.
the worst was a 14 year old who DIDNT get the hint even when I spelled it out to him!
idk all you can do is try to not lead them on and pray about it, and I think that's all you can really do... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
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Nicole
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| 01/08/2011 7:22 PM |
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I have to say don't go for it. I kinda have to agree that he sounds pretty immature if he says 'if you don't, then I know other girls who will date me'. Ummmm, well it makes it sound as if you're the one he chose first, but you're not the only one he has his eye on.... am I making sense? I don't know... if a guy wanted to date me, I think I'd like him to have seen me and think, 'that's a girl a want to date', NOT, 'She's my first option out of so many girls I have my eye on'.
I'm sorry if I just managed to sound rude :/ I honestly wasn't trying to go there.  |
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James
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| 01/12/2011 8:53 PM |
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I don't really know what's the best course of action but on what the others have said..
Younger (immature) guys can pretty easily develop crushes on older girls, especially sweet, friendly ones who treat them as if they are a little bit older than they are. They also don't really take hints or anything well, if it's a bit of an infatuation they are just gonna hear what they want to hear and not really take in what you are really saying.
I'll try not to generalise so from my own experience.. as I've grown up and met girls who aren't silly airheads like most of those through highschool it can be hard not to feel some attraction to a few different girls. Its not that I like all of them its just that I could see myself dating any of them. I see and appreciate their qualities and enjoy spending time developing our friendships. I don't actually intend to date any of them and as far as I know non of them have any romantic feelings for me but what I'm trying to say is basically:
Teenage guys can have feelings for more than one girl at a time.
If he's said you are his number 1 he wants to let you know that he really wants to be with you but if he can't have you obviously he needs to move on and find someone else.
If he's worth anything and you started dating you would be the only girl he would ever think about and want to be with, if you can't trust him however...
It's just that in the emotional teenage stage it's hard to know what you really feel, if you think you are both mature enough go for it. Otherwise tell him something like 'not yet' if he sees you as worth waiting for he will. If he doesn't wait he doesn't deserve you |
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Beckah
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| 01/13/2011 3:16 PM |
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Thank you guys!! i dont think im going to going to make something out of it. its done and over with. personally i want some one my age or older... he has been acting a bit immature lately.. you are so right James, "if he doesnt wait he doesnt deserve me" it make lots of sense on what you said.
thanks!
oh um there is this guy that im friends with, last night he saw my purity ring and asked about it, i was kinda hesitant(sp?) bout telling him. so i just told him its my purity ring. he laughed and said oh sure good one beckah him and his friend started making a big deal out of it. and he wispered something to his friend and they both laughed, later he told me what they said, his friend thought it was a puberty ring.. i was kinda embarased. so now when i see him i hope he doesnt make a big deal about my ring again... what should i do if he does.. |
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James
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| 01/13/2011 5:38 PM |
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Thanks Bec If he teases you about it tell him he can borrow it in 5 years or so when he needs one
What matters is that the ring means something to you it doesn't matter what they think of it although that doesn't really help you much when they are making a big deal about it...
Just boys being immature again |
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Beckah
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| 01/14/2011 7:03 PM |
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| hahaha thats a good idea james!! see im a blonde so i dont have good come backs on anything. lol like this one guy that was running a ski lift at a ski lodge, asked me a "pole question", ok so if a guy asked you out and said he was going to take you to Andes tower hills ski lodge" would that make you say yes even more?" i said well ya i love skiing. than i tought about it and what i should have said was "are you asking me out?" that would have been funny. sorry that was a bit random. |
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Amelia
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| 01/14/2011 7:20 PM |
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Beckah,
Right there with ya!! I always have the lamest come backs. :/ Then when I do have one, no body gets it. My voice is kinda quiet too, so that doesn't help either. Ugh. |
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Beckah
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| 01/15/2011 2:29 PM |
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Amelia,
i do too! mine are always lame. although, i am loud around my friends and family. hehe |
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James
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| 01/15/2011 9:47 PM |
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| Comebacks are supposed to be lame and yeah that was kind of random but it made me laugh anyway |
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Dennix
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| 01/16/2011 6:31 PM |
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I don't like that one bit when boys do that kind of stuff to girls. It's rude and disrespctful to embarass a girl about something like that.
I'm still thinking on what you should do if he makes a big deal out of it again.
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