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ColeUser is Offline

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11/22/2008 11:17 PM  

ok..three of my best friends are having problems and i'm sorta stuck in the middle...One of them likes this guy that she only met once, and she got his number and everything and they txt alot...he likes her too, and if they were older there would definately be something happening(she's only 16 and hes two years older)  They realize they are not old enough so they decided to just txt as friends..nothing else...well, my other two friends(who are guys and her cousins on top of that) think she should absolutely not be txting him..her being only 16, and also her dad wouldnt like it. Well, she didn't rly listen to them so...one of the decided to txt the guy and tell him himself...which made my other friend rly upset...and they each telling me their sides...and I cant tell any of them the stuff the others told me....sigh...I'm just at loss wut to do...so..any advide would be appreciated! Sry if this is way confusing:)
courtneyUser is Offline

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11/22/2008 11:37 PM  
You should talk to someone you can trust and know they will have good Godly advice.  pray, Pray, Pray, and pray some more!!!   You might want to confront your friend because it is not right to go behind your dads back! The Bible tells us to honor our parents and know that it will only get you into trouble! talk to a youth leader or your pastor!
JoJoUser is Offline

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11/23/2008 2:42 PM  
Get others to pray too!! cuz when 2 or 3 gather together in prayer, God is there and things happen!
Maybe also tell your friend that a txt relationship isnt exactly the best thing you can do. for example, my friend started dating this guy cuz he asked her out on a txt. they then txtd each other approx 24/7 and dated for like 3 months. when they saw each other in person, they couldnt talk face to face, and txtd each other when they were only 1 metre apart. i was like "dude, if you cant talk to him in person, whats the point of the relationship. It's like make believe." they ended up breaking up because he didnt txt her back for like 3 days... but yeah...
I strongly advise that if you start a relationship, or even a friendship with a guy that you speak in person, rather than txting him heaps. (I like a guy atm and even though I have his facebook, I dont talk to him on it much cuz Im too shy to talk to him in person, so I try to stick to just talking to him when I see him...)
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live

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God Bless!
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JoJo
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11/24/2008 11:49 AM  
the only advice i have is, don't tell anybody else. this doesn't need to be, tell everybody so everybody can "pray". like that'll happen. i'm sorry, but it just won't. instead, it'll get spread around in your school/church/youth group or wherever else it could.
i've stuck my foot in my mouth one too many times by spreading something about someone, under the assumption that the people i told would just "pray" and not tell another soul. yeah right!
tell her dad or tell her to tell her dad. nobody else, i strongly, strongly (did i mention, strongly?) recommend.
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JoJoUser is Offline

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11/24/2008 3:47 PM  
I wasnt meaning gossipy friends. You know, not all friends are gossipy. I was meaning trusted people, you dont even have to say the situation, you can just say "pray for my friend cuz she might need it" you dont have to explain everything. and with situations I've had and my friends have had, I have been able to ask people to pray and they have! dont just assume that because something happened "this" way that it will always be like that. I can actually trust my friends that when I say "pray about this..." they actually do.
Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live

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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo
ColeUser is Offline

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11/25/2008 11:23 PM  
Hey thanks for the advice guys! I really appreciate it! Well, i wont tell anyone that doesnt know cuz she ttly trusts me not too...and ya your right, that so does not need to get out!! LIke now shes rly upset with the guy who txt her "friend" and he's feeling pretty low about it....I'm trying my best to convince him that he didnt do anything wrong...but ya..its kinda tough! Plz pray!!! Thanx everyone!!!!:)
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