Paul Job
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| 02/23/2011 10:23 PM |
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I'm 16 year old guy and it's hard when it comes to talking to girls. I'm just wondering what I can to be a better communicator when it comes to talking with the opposite sex without have a nervous breakdown at the same time. Any suggestions girls?
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/23/2011 10:30 PM |
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| Welcome to the forums, Paul! Are you talking about communicating with a particular girl that you like, or just enjoying yourself around girls in general? Do you consider yourself shy? How are your friendships with your guy friends? |
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Paul Job
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| 02/25/2011 12:53 AM |
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| Just girls in general i guess. I'm not all that shy I guess. It's just that I kind of tend to trip over myself a lot when it comes to girls. I have TONS of guy friends and I would just like to even things out a bit by getting some girl friends in there. It's hard now-a-days to just have some FRIENDS that are good, God filled, Christian GIRLS and nothing more serious than that. The only REAL time that I have ever remotely thought of dating is to look for the woman that I'm going to marry. (And that will probably be years from now.) In the meantime, I'm just trying to get tips on how to talk to these said girls without making a total fool of myself. (Just because I'm not dating doesn't mean that I don't get nervous around girls. After all, I am a guy!) So... Any helpful suggestions Darcie? |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/25/2011 3:36 PM |
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| Oh, okay. It sounds like you have a friendly personality. Being in a conversation in which both guys and girls are participating helps to alleviate some of the pressure. Join your guy friends who like to talk to girls. It won't seem clingy at all, and as you get used to interacting with both genders at once, things will become easier with the girls. |
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Paul Job
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| 02/25/2011 8:31 PM |
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Thanks for understanding Darcie. I'm fairly new to the book FYMO and I am really enjoying it. It's interesting to see what girls really and truly think about us guys. It's just hard at this time and age to be a young Christian man that doesn't get sucked into the world's lies. Sometimes I just wonder if girls even appreciate us Christian teenage boys anymore. I'm not suggesting that I'm rethinking my faith just to get some girls or anything like that. I'd just like to know if girls actually notice the countless guys that are actually trying to be the best that we can be for you girls. Any thoughts Darcie?
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/25/2011 9:34 PM |
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| I haven't read any of Shaunti's books yet, although I would like to. Honestly, girls are going to notice guys' efforts, even their stupid attempts. Don't worry about impressing girls. Don't try to change yourself for them either. There's a verse somewhere that says, "But whatsoever you eat or drink or whatsoever you do, do it all for the glory of God" (something like that!)The girls who notice and appreciate a godly young man's efforts are going to be the ones who try to be the best for God. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/25/2011 9:35 PM |
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| oops. I meant their best for God. |
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Q
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| 02/27/2011 11:32 PM |
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Paul, I know the question was aimed at girls, but I thought I would put my two cents in anyway,
Girls aren't monsters, look how nice Darcie has been to you (even though she disagrees with me every time I post something), most girls will be just as nice.
Get to know some girls who you aren't nervous around, maybe they wont be the most attractive or popular girls, but get to know them, and the attractive and popular girls wont seem so scary.
You said "I'd just like to know if girls actually notice the countless guys that are actually trying to be the best that we can be for you girls." that sounds like a lot of effort, never try to be anything for anyone (exept for maybe God)
also body language plays a big part in how we feel, by leaning back and taking up some space, you will relax, even if it feels wrong to start with.
hope I helped. |
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Paul Job
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| 02/28/2011 9:59 PM |
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Thanks Q. You have in fact helped. I'm not exactly saying that when I talk to girls that it is a life or death situation... It's just always been tough for me to break the ice between me and other girls. I mean, I know a couple of ways but they either require a one-on-one talk with her and her alone, or one of Harry Potter's spells. (And I highly doubt the Harry Potter choice.) So, any suggestions on how to break the ice with girls? (P.S. You sound pretty nice yourself.)
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Q
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| 03/01/2011 1:34 AM |
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Haha I might seem nice, but I'm a guy,
Just remember girls are insecure, just ask their opinion on something. Or the best icebreaker ever,
you: "how much does a polar bear weigh?"
her: "I don't know, how much?"
you: "I dont know either, but it weighs enough to break the ice"
It probably wont help much, but it's funny. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/01/2011 1:30 PM |
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hahaha! nice one. BTW, I have to agree that I disagree with everything you say so in a sense, I really am still disagreeing with you.  But nice one with the polar bears. |
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Beckah
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| 03/01/2011 3:00 PM |
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| ohh my gosh. that IS funny! i know alot of lame pick-up lines. one day, me and my friend came up with lots of lame pick-up lines and said them to eachother. it was epic! |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Paul Job
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| 03/01/2011 8:30 PM |
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| Sounds interesting Beckah. I've been wondering this for a while so here it goes... What, to you, is one of the worst things that a guy can say to a girl? (I'm wondering so I'll know what NOT to say when I talk to girls.) |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/01/2011 9:47 PM |
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| NEVER EVER EVER tease a girl about liking somebody. |
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Beckah
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| 03/02/2011 2:02 PM |
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NEVER EVER EVER tease a girl about liking somebody.
Agreed.
dont say something that you know could embarress(sp?) her, and especialy in front of her friends.
dont say drity and perverted jokes around girls, thats a big turn off.
dont say cheesey pick up lines..ie... "do you have a map? i got lost in your eyes", "is there a fire extingusher around, because your smokin' hot", "Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see!" there are many more lame ones..
Never talk about your ex-gf's. thats one of the worst things. it makes the girl think your not over them and its just stupid.
dont make fun of other people in front of us girls, its rude, you may think it was a funny joke, but really its not cool.
thats all i can come up with atm....anyone else?? |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/02/2011 2:06 PM |
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| Don't pay too much attention to one girl at a time. You'll either make her uncomfortable or make her think that you like her. |
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Beckah
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| 03/02/2011 2:08 PM |
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thats a good one too Darcie.  |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/02/2011 2:09 PM |
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| BTW stupid guys are the ones who text girls at 2AM |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/02/2011 2:09 PM |
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| well... if there's an emergency, it's ok. |
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Beckah
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| 03/02/2011 2:11 PM |
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| yes Darcie i agree with you on that too. I have expieranced it. so dumb! |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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