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AlaskaMac
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| 04/06/2011 10:02 PM |
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| lright if you guys saw my other forum im trying to get my girlfriend back, and shes now dating a "bad guy" hes 5 years older, likes to drink everyday, drugs etc. i'm starting to talk to her, and i told her that i missed her and still loved her which i hope is a great way to start things back. However I want to show her that i do miss her and that i love her, but i dont want to sound needy or despreate, any advice? |
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JoJo
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| 04/07/2011 5:07 AM |
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You've probably seen my post on the other thread, but I'll ask Will to have a look and reply back to you.
Oh btw, can you post the link to the other thread on here, just so it's easier to jump between the 2... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 04/08/2011 12:53 AM |
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You've probably seen my post on your other thread too, but to answer this one with a different answer:
Patience is one of your best allies. I know it's not easy- take it from someone who is learning it on a daily basis- but patience will enable you to not constantly seek her out. Just be there for her, but you're most likely going to have to wait
Sorry if it wasn't the answer you were looking for :/ |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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JoJo
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| 04/08/2011 9:18 PM |
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I dont really know what to write, as I'm a girl, and no girl can really tell what another girl is thinking... as alot of us have said before, we, ourselves, dont understand exactly why us girls do what we do...
I mean, I liked a gay guy (who I suspected was gay, but he never told me) and I just convinced myself I was thinking too much about things... and was wrong... only once I didn't see him for a while did I realise I was being stupid, and I ended up not liking him as more than a friend. (he still hasn't admitted it to me, but everybody knows he's gay...
anyways...
the short answer is, there is no specific way you can use, no formula that's guarenteed, to get her back. all you can do is be patient, see how she reacts to different things (dont be desperate, cuz it actually is a major turn off if he is. there's a difference between being sweet and showing you care, to being desperate...)
all you can do is show you're there, and it might have to be as a friend for a while, until she comes to the conclusion herself (cuz thats the only way she'll genuinely come back to you...) that this guy is no good. I mean, no matter how much everyone else told me this guy was gay, i still didn't listen...
anyways, if you have other questions, feel free to ask. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Q
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| 04/11/2011 6:28 AM |
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@jojo Don't assume someone's gay if they don't admit it, I just found out that the girl I like used to think I was gay, and this guy (that I thought was gay) thought I was gay, (turns out he is and I'm not), so the guy you used to like may just be effeminate.
As for the real topic, the reasons why girls like bad boys is one of the topics I disagree with For Young Men Only on, the authors of the book asked girls what they were attracted to, girls don't know what they are attracted to (for that matter neither do guys) they may know what they want (sensitive, caring, steady) but what they are attracted to are often very different, the reason she is probably attracted to the bad boy is because he isn't boring, bad boys are not often boring and have cool stories, whereas nice church type boys are. (stories that involve cops tend to be more interesting than stories about your Bible study group)
Women are often more attracted to an alpha male, bad boys are often this also, they don't take no umm... bad treatment? from anyone, but they often treat others quite badly. Bad boys aren't predictable, but nice guys often are. Bad boys take girls on an emotional roller coaster ride. nice guys are worrying about hurting their feelings, they live for her bad boys have other things to worry about. Nice guys assume that building her ego by saying, you're so pretty, I love your eyes etc. will make a girl like him, because submissive actions often make guys like girls, but girls like dominant guys. In short this shocking revelation hit me about a year ago, Women are attracted to MEN, be a man don't take poor treatment from anyone, do what you feel like (to an extent).
My last point is, there is a thousand other fish in the sea, with girls like this the sooner you get over them the sooner they want you back. |
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JoJo
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| 04/12/2011 5:06 AM |
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hehe nah, he actually was gay... and... he was a drag queen in his spare time etc... only recently has he stopped and actually might not be gay anymore  haha. but yeah, I haven't exactly asked him, as that would kinda be rude
but I do second what Q was saying. though dont be a bad boy yourself... and hopefully she'll realise what she's missing out on.
in saying that, if you do get over her, and try to not care so much about her etc (even though you do) she may get the hint that maybe you're not as into her as she thought (wait for it, i have a point) and that you might not always be there for her to fall back on whenever she feels like it, and then SHE might get her A into G and actually realise she's being silly... and that you were awesome. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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AlaskaMac
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| 04/12/2011 7:11 PM |
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| thank you all for your advice, I am trying to take it all and apply it to my problem, right now I'm trying to not just talk to her since most of our converstations were simple and not intresting. |
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JoJo
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| 04/13/2011 4:52 AM |
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| if you dont mind me asking, what do you mean by "just talk"? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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AlaskaMac
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| 04/14/2011 4:23 AM |
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| um instead of starting the converstation im waiting for her to do it |
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JoJo
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| 04/14/2011 9:23 AM |
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normally, I'd say to a girl "let him speak first"... but in your situation  I think you're doing the right thing she needs to show her interest. so thats good! cuz you are fully prepared to do your share, she needs to do hers |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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