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wjr1991
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| 06/25/2008 2:16 PM |
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Well, I seem to have been away a long time... relatively speaking- either that or things just sped up while I was away...
First off, I want to know how some of you girls know so much about guys... you've got a pretty good idea in general (almost like someone found out what guys in general are like, and put it in a book... oh, wait... someone did.) Yeah, so, I'm just saying you have a decent idea, although I know I disagree at points.
So, back on topic. runnergirl493, to answer your question, usually not. I mean, it varies, but for the most part, it mostly depends on our tastes, and the girl... there is supposedly some kind of prestige among guys if they "get" an girl that's older than them, but I never understood it- that's about the only real defining thing I've noticed. Personally, I'm not really "turned off" by girls 2-3 years younger than I am, I just generally wonder if they're really ready and mature enough for that kind of relationship. Like, when I'm in college, I'd probably have no problem dating girls 4 years younger than I am- should I decide to date. It just really depends on how mature you are.
Now, do you want me to give my recommendation about his attention, etc? (the "what do I do?" part) I can, but I was thinking I'd address the big question first and foremost... mostly because that's the one I had a fairly easy answer for.
Now, because I seem to like doing this- I'm gonna flip this question back at you... what do girls think about younger guys? Are they "turned off" by them? What are your thoughts? |
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prettygirl
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| 06/25/2008 2:33 PM |
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| great question... it kinda depends on the guy for me. i thought i would never want to date a guy younger than me, but then i found out that there were some really great guys that were a grade younger, like i would have no problem dating them. i think for girls though, we like to have a guy who's older, taller, etc. because it just kinda makes it awkward sometimes, cuz the guy's supposed to be the leader, so it just feels weird. that being said, the guy that i like is shorter than me and we are planning on dating sometime in the future when we're a little older. i think that even though you may have all the dreams of your perfect prince already in your head, God may say, get rid of that image, here's wat your guy really looks like. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 06/27/2008 12:06 AM |
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wjr, i don't think we're necessarily turned off by guys that're younger than us, it's just that it turns out that we hardly ever like younger guys because they're so much more immature. and not really in a bad way, i don't really mean that. but people always say, and it's so true, that guys mature much slower than girls. so guys my age are still not as mature as i am. and guys 2-3 years older are more, for lack of a better phrase, at my speed. and guys 2-3 years younger, are just like, wayyy far behind me.
and not in a bad way! don't get me wrong. but use me as an example here. i'm dating a guy who's 2 years older than me and he STILL acts like he's 10 years old half the time! haha, but it's chill, because he's him. and sure, it's God's plan that we're together, yaddayaddayadda. but to tie in with this, he's still 2 years older. and like prettygirl says, i think we tend to be more attracted to older guys because they're more mature.
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JoJo
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| 06/27/2008 4:17 AM |
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Yeah totally! just as an example, as prettygirl was saying, most of the time we have this picture in our head of what our dream guy will be, and them God says "I have the most awesome guy in mind for you, but he's not going to be what you expect!" like my friend was positive she could never date/marry someone of a different race, and then God told her, "Well, the guy I have for you is everything you want except, he is indian..." and you know what, she realized it didnt matter what race he was! and like for me, I always wanted a guy who was blonde with blue eyes who had a mop, and with this guy im getting to know now, he has brown eyes, brown hair and a mop, So he's not xactly what i had pictured, but I wouldnt change him for the world!
To get back on topic though... I had always thought I wanted to marry someone 2 years older than me. mainly due to the maturity factor and he'd be strong enough to protect me. But I've lately found out that not all younger guys are immature. the last two guys I liked were both younger than me. One was 1 and a half years younger and one was a month younger. The guy im getting to know is younger than me by half a year, but he is so mature for his age! Like I could talk to him for hours and get an intelligent conversation out of him. And one thing about younger guys is that because they are younger, they are still a bit immature, but thats what makes them funny! and I think most girls love a guy who can make them laugh!A guy who is too serious can be a turn off! so in closing, I dont see anything wrong with dating a younger guy...
Remember that when you're married and in your 30's, Age doesnt matter as much! it only really matters in your teens/early twentys... but of corse 15years is heaps! so yeah.... but I dont think many people fall for people WAY older or WAY younger than them.... |
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Lookin' back from where you have been
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runnergirl493
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| 06/27/2008 11:04 AM |
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I agree with all of you. For me, I would rather have someone who is older than me or in the same grade...but it's mostly because of the maturity factor, like emilyjanelle said. it seems like all the guys in my grade (10th) are so immature! I like to go for the older ones because they seem to be way more mature. I've never actually had the experience of a bf..because this is the first summer i've been allowed to date, but recently, all the guys (2 haha) i've liked have been older. I would never say that I'm never gonna date someone younger than me though, guys are always a surprise, they could be two years younger, but if they're 2 years older in maturity, it REALLY helps.
Wjr...I WOULD really like your opinion on how to get this guys opinion...i know that i'm supposed to just act like myself and he'll be drawn to me or whatever...but that doesn't seem to be working :/.
PS...if any of you has a Facebook, my name is Heather Stevens..add me!! |
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wjr1991
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| 06/27/2008 3:51 PM |
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Well, thanks a lot- you just made my relations with girls a year or two older than I am a little bit more awkward... everyone says I'm rather mature for my age... I guess that means I can't count on their not "liking" me...
Heather, I'm not exactly sure what to advise you to do, because being yourself is definitely good policy as a rule- if I'm attracted to a girl and find out she was just putting on a facade to attract me, I'd be pretty annoyed- probably to the point of crossing her off my list of possible interests.
Ok... that said, I'm thinking the big thing about being yourself is that you set aside the "I want to get your attention" attitude... like, enjoy being around him and talking with him and such... don't view it so much as trying to be attractive to him as trying to have fun being with him, because those are the kind of girls (eh, people in general too) we like to be around. Really, the endearing/flirting/etc stuff should pretty much be around the edges... if he's a worthwhile guy, he'll think that girls that are always flirting with him and trying to endear themselves to him are rather shallow- he'll want real substance behind it all.
Oh, in regard to the P.S., there are two people with your name at the community college I sometimes take classes at, and a bunch more outside... I'm definitely not adding all of them. |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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runnergirl493
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| 06/28/2008 10:16 AM |
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haha..sorry about that, but seriously, it has a lot to do with the level of maturity, and from how you write, you seem really mature...but then again you're probably older than me too .
I definetly don't put on an act around him, I'm always with my friends and stuff, so i act pretty much the same, except that I get really nervous around him...like I said, I don't have a history, so I am not used to this thing yet haha, but thanks for the advice, it helped..i'll let you know how it all works out!!
p.s..i go to penn high school, i'm pretty sure i'm the only heather stevens who goes to penn. that should help |
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wjr1991
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| 06/28/2008 10:02 PM |
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Oh, it's ok... it just happens that most of my really good friends are rather mature girls who are older than I am... and it would appear I am... by 2 years. :-) (btw, thanks)
Yeah, well, I'm home-schooled, so I don't always spend a lot of time with my friends... and hence I often feel awkward around girls, just because I'm not around them enough to always know what's normal and what's not. And just so you know, I don't have much of a history either- I mean, I had one spot where one of my best friends and I both kinda "liked" each other, and had a month or so of awkwardness there, but that's it. So I'm nowhere near used to it either. And quite frankly, I think it's almost better that way... I think there is something genuinely awesome about people who can enjoy what Paul calls "the gift of singleness"... just something about how they are more free to develop their relationship with Christ, and live for more because they don't have the cares of keeping someone "interested" in them.
p.s. that should work better... I was pretty sure you weren't in the high-school program there... |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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prettygirl
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| 06/28/2008 11:06 PM |
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| wat should i do if i know a guy kinda likes me, and i think he would be a great friend to have (he's older than me by about 3 years i think) but don't want to go out with him (im already kinda with someone else). do you think he would think that i like him if im really nice to him and like, smile a lot, and should i not flirt at all? i really like him (as a friend) , but rite now i can't really have anything more than that with him. |
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smartblonde77
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| 06/29/2008 4:42 PM |
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well i don't really mind younger guys i mean i went camping and met this guy 2 years younger than me and i'm going in to 10th grade and hes going into 7th but i still kinda liked him i mean just cuase hes younger doesn't mean much to me! well..... he can't really be more than 2 years younger that would be wierd cuase i'm 14 half way to 15 but ya as long as there not to much younger i'm fine with it of course i have 2 bofriends and there were both way older than me lik whemn i was 9 or 10 he was 13 and the other on was a kindergarden cruse i like you i like you too thin\g but i was 5 and he was like 9....  lol! so younger older God has the right person for you somewhere out there! i guess you'll know when God brings y'all together! |
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~Krista
it's kinda crazy how time has a way of makein all these memories fade away so if theres only one thing you remember bout me remember that i loved you unconditionally! |
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smartblonde77
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| 06/29/2008 4:44 PM |
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acctaully i HAVE HAD 2 botfriends! lol! i don't have ANY right now! lol  |
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~Krista
it's kinda crazy how time has a way of makein all these memories fade away so if theres only one thing you remember bout me remember that i loved you unconditionally! |
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humandude15
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| 01/04/2010 7:12 PM |
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does anyone like Thousand Ft Krutch? if so which song one of my favorites are I climb, Quicken,Phenomenon, and New Design.
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Going through this life looking for Angels
People passing by, looking for Angels. |
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Nicole
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| 03/23/2011 2:40 AM |
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Well since the last post seems to have been in 2010, I don't feel as awkward in reviving this thread that started back in 2008
To answer Humandude15: I think I like a song or two by thousand foot krutch, though I can't pinpoint the names right now.
Anyways, to put my 2 cents in to the original discussion- which I think was age difference- I'm usually going to to go for a guy that's about 1-4 years older than I am, or possibly around the same age. The reason being does have to do with maturity factors, but I also wouldn't mind dating a guy that was maybe a year or two younger than I am. If I date a guy, I'd like him to be able to continue on an intelligent discussion with me, and, along with having the same values, be at the same maturity level. I might think a guy is super cute and good looking, but if he acts like a jr high student... I'm not so sure about that.
And for the record, I'd prefer the guy asking me out- I kinda like it better that way Hehe |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/25/2011 1:24 AM |
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Humandude: I like "Breathe You In", quite a few more, but the names escape me at the moment, seeing that I haven't listened to them for awhile... RED is awesome too!
I am hoping for a guy about 1.5 to three years older than me, and I DON'T like the thought of girls asking guys out... |
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