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~*Blue Baby Girl*~ User is Offline

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01/01/2009 9:19 PM
Um ok hey I'm Mickey I'm new here. but anywayz i have this best guy friend. he's totally amazing. i'm 14 going on 15 and he recently turned 17. we used 2 date but he broke it off cuz all of a sudden he wasn't comfortable w/ our age differance. for awhile we wldnt talk or anything and if we did we'd get rele upset w/ each other. then finally i needed some good advice and i asked him and then of course we decided to be friends. i once made a statement that we wld nvr be 2gethr again or he wld nvr fall for me again and he was like u nvr know wat will happen we get older. and he's made comments about us dating when we're older, and made some discreet marriage and family comments to me. well then i got a bf and i was still a little tickd @ him so i sorta got revenge on him and he was rele tickd off. so then me and my bf broke and he was fine. we were able to be close friends again. then next thing i know he's got a new gf! and now he's a total jerk! he's been constantly trying 2 get revenge now. (plus i sorta askd him 2 hook me up w/ his younger bro which made him sorta jealous and mad) he's either rubbing it in my face or discreetly rubbing it in my face. he doesnt act the same anymore. its like we cnt be friends when we're dating someone. and i feel like this revenge like cycle is nvr going 2 end!!! and i want it 2! i dnt get why he's doing this 2 me! i wish he'd stop! plz help!!! i need advice! anyone hav any ideas 2 y he's doing this?

~Mickey aka BlueBabyGirl~cool beans!

emilyjanelle User is Offline

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01/02/2009 11:03 AM
honestly, he's probably doing it... because... you're doing it, too? am i right or am i right? seriously, blue, if you want to stop the "cycle of revenge", you have to stop it first. you can't wait for him to stop first. it just doesn't work that way. hardly ever, when we want someone to stop something, do they know it. we either have to tell them or do it ourselves and have them follow by example. and with the age difference, he's very right. you're 14 girl! chill out and wait to see what God has for you. looking for love where it ain't won't get you anywhere. instead of a "cycle of revenge", you'll be in a "cycle of lost love". :]

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wjr1991

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01/03/2009 7:55 AM
Emily, I think you're probably right. Listen to her- revenge is very much not a good idea. Also... um... asking your ex to hook you up with their sibling... yeah... not a good idea. Really, I think you need to just slow down. You're 14... there's plenty of time to find the right guy, so don't rush anything and settle for the wrong one- spend the time making yourself the right girl, instead. Yeah, he's taking revenge on you because you took it on him. You can do something to stop it though... apologize for your revenge, and admit it was lousy of you- then it's all in his lap. Sincere apology is really powerful.

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~*Blue Baby Girl*~ User is Offline

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01/03/2009 12:17 PM
Thnx 4 the replies! i probably shld apologize but...ok this is going 2 sound retarded and stupid...but i just dnt know how i shld do it or wat 2 say. i mean and another thing is that i dnt rele think his gf likes me 4 some odd unknown reason and i think, knowing the way she is cuz shes rele protective of him, that shes told him that he cnt tlk 2 me. so idk how this will go. again srry 2 ask 4 more advice but can u help me w/ the apology part?

~Mickey aka BlueBabyGirl~cool beans!

maddiegirl User is Offline

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01/03/2009 2:35 PM
I agree w/ emilyjanelle u nailed it chica (-:

JoJo

Posts:1670

01/05/2009 8:04 PM
yeah I know when I was 14 I was boy obsessed, like freakishly boy obsessed, now I know how stupid I acted to impress guys or make them jealous or get revenge on them for how they treated me... All in all, treat them how you want to be treated. and involve God in evertything. I dont really know what else to say... but I hope I helped!

Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out 'Cause you won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live .-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-. God Bless! Mwah XOXO JoJo

Austin

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01/05/2009 9:21 PM
here's the deal. I would just call him and tell him what's really going on. I mean tell him everything you told us. Honesty is the first step. Apologize sincerely and don't expect anything. If he doesn't apologize back, at least you cleared your conscience and took the high road. I think both of you need to mature a little bit and grow out of this mess before you try and pursue another relationship together. That's what I think, anyway. Hope that helps

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JoJo

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01/05/2009 9:56 PM
WOW austen, that is awesome advice!

Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out 'Cause you won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live .-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-. God Bless! Mwah XOXO JoJo

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