SirKyle
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| 12/06/2011 9:06 PM |
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| So, I would really like some help here. There's this girl that I really, really like that goes to my youth group. We have a lot in common, and it seems everyone around us thinks we would make the cutest couple ever. I also know for sure that she knows I like her. After about four months or so of me flirting with her and getting good signals from her, it randomly started going downhill. Both of us are on our church's worship team, where I noticed that she has a crush on the main singer and guitarist, who is 32 and has 2 kids, and isn't exactly the best guy ever. Ever since she started having a crush on him, she has paid no attention to me and is now being extremely cold and antisocial towards me, and as her best friend told me, she doesn't really like me anymore. Should I wait for the silly crush to go away, keep pursuing her, or just give up on this whole thing? |
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clare
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| 12/06/2011 9:35 PM |
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| If she is that kind of girl, what would make you think she'd be faithful to you? I would advise waiting, if God wants it to happen he'll open up the right doors. |
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SirKyle
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| 12/06/2011 11:31 PM |
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| It seems I forgot to mention that I don't even think she knows she has a crush on the guy, because she definitely doesn't act like she does. And he is oblivious that she has a crush on him. But either way, I really appreciate the advice! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 12/07/2011 12:50 AM |
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It's been my experience that puppy dog crushes tend to go away as quickly as they come, but if she's completely giving you the cold shoulder, I don't think I'd stick around. To be brutally honest, it sounds like she's dropped you like a hot potato. My best advice would be to let her go.
Sorry I can't be more optimistic! |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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JoJo
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| 12/08/2011 5:33 AM |
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well, I've had my fair share of admiring an older guy... it did fade fast, mainly cuz i recognised it and knew it was #1, not gonna happen, and #2 it was wrong... so I ended it pretty soon...
anyways... Idk if you can do anything about it. maybe if her friend is a good friend of yours too, you could possibly voice your concern and she could maybe shed some light on the subject? idk what does everyone else think? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 12/08/2011 5:36 AM |
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| by that I mean you could say "correct me if I'm wrong, but does "..." have a crush on the worship leader? cuz she's acting in that way, and I dont wanna make an issue of it, I'm just concerned..." idk clare or nicole, what do you think? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 12/08/2011 9:24 PM |
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| I would wait a little and see if it is a passing puppy crush before making a deal of it. If she is acting likt a fool in public then something should be said. I'll admit I've had a passing crush on a very nice teacher or someone but yeah I knew it wasn't right and cut it short. |
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SirKyle
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| 12/10/2011 9:50 PM |
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Thank you peoples soooooo much for the advice!  I also recently realized that one reason she hasn't talked to me as much is probably because she's having family problems at home. Therefore, I will definitely be waiting a while before doing pretty much anything involving our relationship, other than being there for her when she needs it. |
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clare
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| 12/14/2011 12:07 AM |
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| Hey I used to have that same picture as mine! Off subject I know :p |
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aharper1997
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| 01/13/2012 5:49 PM |
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Ok, this is super late, and you may not even like her anymore, but I'll still say something. Ok, if she likes a guy who is 32, and has 2 kids it's probably not a real crush. She probaby thinks he's cool and really cute. It's like guys seeing a celebrity that's really pretty and having a "crush" on her. Obviously, he'd never have a chance (especially if she's older!), he just "likes" her. But if she is giving you the cold shoulder and isn't talking at all to you, you should get over her...what makes you think she'd stay faithful? Hope it helped...even though it's late |
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SirKyle
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| 01/16/2012 4:20 PM |
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| I really do appreciate the advice, even though it is a bit late. She's over her silly crushes now and is surprisingly talking to me a lot more, which is ironic because I'm pretty much over her. lol. I guess I'll just see how it goes.... |
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puregurl77
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| 01/16/2012 6:15 PM |
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Personally, I would stop liking her because of what her actions are showing. I don't think she's a good girl to pursue, no matter how many of your friends are saying that you two would make a cute couple.
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