Zeke3651
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| 12/30/2011 9:26 PM |
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Not many people believe this anymore. I think you should save kissing until your married. Why?
1.Kissing is the first part to sex it intrigues those hormones.
2. It's like saying I will do a little magic but wont go to far. Kissing is in the same way.
3. A lot of purity books avoid this subject and expect as a norm. Do not expect the norm that kissing is all right.
4.Kissing cause a bound between a girl and boy.
5.Do not kiss until you are married and ready for that commitment. for kissing a commitment to that person.
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JoJo
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| 12/31/2011 12:20 AM |
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I think there are a lot of us on here who agree...
myself personally, I think if you're engaged and it's genuine, it's ok if it's not full on... like avoiding making out... just because I think going from like stage one to whatever on your wedding day is a bit too intense? idk...
but I do think you should only kiss the person you should marry (ideally) because of the reasons you've stated above. and alot of people here also think you should save it til you're married. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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artist_for_christ
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| 12/31/2011 5:03 PM |
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| I agree with Jojo, I think that if your first kiss is "You may now kiss the bride" it may be a big leap to the wedding night and honeymoon. I feel that kissing is something special and should be saved until you are either close to engaged or are engaged (kissing on the lips I mean). Before that I think it should be a kiss on the cheek or forehead, but then again I have never dated before so I don't know if its easier said then done. I do know that the passionate kissing you see most people do should be saved for the wedding night. Before then, after or close to engagement, it should be little kisses. Kinda like the kiss you gave your mom or dad when you said good night when you were little. Again- never been in that situation so Idk if it's easier said then done. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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JoJo
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| 02/01/2012 5:39 PM |
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| haha on a side note... i gave my bro a family kiss on the cheek the other day, and he was all "EWWWW GROSS!!" haha. and he's 20... lol just for laughs |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Zeke365
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| 02/17/2012 6:51 PM |
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Posted By Zeke3651 on 12/30/2011 9:26 PM
Not many people believe this anymore. I think you should save kissing until your married. Why?
1.Kissing is the first part to sex it intrigues those hormones.
2. It's like saying I will do a little magic but wont go to far. Kissing is in the same way.
3. A lot of purity books avoid this subject and expect as a norm. Do not expect the norm that kissing is all right.
4.Kissing is a bound between a wife and husband to be shared only.
5.Do not kiss until you are married and ready for that commitment. for kissing a commitment to that person.
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JoJo
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| 02/19/2012 7:13 PM |
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haha, i like your post  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Zeke365
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| 02/21/2012 8:04 PM |
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"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." Song of Songs 8:4
The reason I put this scripture up is because you need to realize, a kiss is an arousal for a guy and for you. This all teaches you girls not kiss until your married because your awaking that love with in you.
You see when you kiss a guy, you arouse him to want more whether you believe that or not. That's why I urge you not to kiss until your married.
For those who have kissed a guy be careful! The reason is the longer you kiss him, the more aroused he going to get and you, then he will start doing what he is deigned to do. Most guys do not want to go to far (some do but not all).
This scripture is dear to my heart and is one of the reasons why I don't believe in kissing before your married.
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JoJo
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| 02/21/2012 11:55 PM |
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yeah I understand what you're saying... I do...
for me, if I'm engaged to a man, I've most likely thought long and hard about it, and so has he, and we've prayed and talked to God about it alot... by the time he asks me to marry him, I've already fallen head over heels for him, so I'm kinda way past awakening that deep desire in my heart. even if we haven't kissed...
I kinda know, because atm (I won't say who it is) but i feel like (due to long conversations with God and things that have happened recently) that I've found my special someone (wait a minute there... this is me being completely serious... and over immense discussions with God and myself... not taken lightly... and involved me begging God to take away feelings I shouldn't have, and God giving me confirmation... ) and I'm way past just "liking" him... nothing dodgy, I promise... but I know deep down I love him with all my heart... (besides God of course, who I love WAY more )
but I know, this verse is relating to sexual desire... but I think that even without holding hands/hugging/kissing or w/e, that animal pounces if you're not on guard... even if you're taking things really slow...
I'm not saying you're wrong, or that I'm right... having been involved in acting and dance, you kinda get used to having to "portray" love (not dodgy love... meaning like kissing in a play, or a dance about 2 people who love each other etc) so idk... it's a little different... and guy's I've danced with, we totally have no feelings whatsoever for each other... haha (random info there)
I think a guy named David, on the forums explained it best, he posted quite alot, i can't remember the exact posts, but maybe if you look up his name, you'll find some of them 
Overall, I do agree with what you're saying. Maturity also plays a part though... as for myself... I can't handle a whole stack of emotional/spiritual/physical stuff in one gigantic package... if I had to wait til marriage to kiss my husband... I think he'd probably have to wait a while before anything else happened... just can't deal with ALL that at once... haha. maybe it's just me... I like slow and steady... not jazz jack rabbit
and that scripture is one in the forefront of my mind alot. reminds me to guard myself... but then... aparently, I push alot of guys away because of that
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 02/24/2012 10:10 PM |
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This is something i'm still torn on! and i'm married I would advise my own future daughter to wait.if they kids after they are engaged that would be their decision. I kissed 2 men before my husband, and we kissed before we were engaged.looking back I wish I waited. But I can totally understand the"wedding night phobia" even having kissed before then, it is still a little wracking. But, you know y you love this person so much and it's all so natural it isn't add scary or to much to handle as you might think when you're still single. Its every persons decision, but waiting is never wrong! |
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artist_for_christ
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| 03/02/2012 11:13 PM |
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although I don't agree with Rob Bells most recent theology, I do think he does a very good job with the nooma videos. This one has to do with the verse Zeek mentioned and I think he explains it well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YT9pqo3oYeE
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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cara17
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| 03/11/2012 10:30 PM |
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| i know that kissing can lead to other things, but if it's just innocent and you take things slowly, it could be okay before you're married or engaged. I would recomend talking to the guy sometime early in your relationship though to discuss your boundaries and how far is too far. That way you can both decide when to stop and hold each other accountable before you're in the middle of a situation that could push those limits. And make sure you both pray about your boundaries that you set for yourselves in your purity. |
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