maddiegirl
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| 01/03/2009 2:30 PM |
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Hi. (-:
I was just wondering how you tell if a guy likes you - girls AND guys reply to this one!!
There's a guy right now who I like and I think he likes me too but it's hard to tell. He's nice to everybody, he hugs everybody, and a lot of girls besides me like him. So how do I tell if he likes me or not? And if he does, should I tell him I like him??
Please respond...........thank you (-: |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/07/2009 1:52 PM |
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| i think you can only "tell" if a guy likes you, when he tells you to your face. otherwise, it's all just assumptions and guesswork. don't ask him or any of his friends to ask him. just wait for him to come to you. if he never goes, well, there's your answer. :p |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/07/2009 1:54 PM |
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| if he never *does, sorry. |
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You may as well come quiet.
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JoJo
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| 01/08/2009 4:42 AM |
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Yeah! basically what Emily said. you can only really tell if he tels you.
I would suggest telling him. Guys like to be the man and innitiate the relationship, and alot of guys get turned off if you say something first...
If you need more help, i think there are a few topics on here that go into greater description of this kind of thing. I think my first ever topic was one of them... but Im not sure where it is LOL  |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/08/2009 3:06 PM |
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| i think jojo meant: i would not suggest telling him. whoopsie. :p |
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JoJo
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| 01/08/2009 9:52 PM |
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Oops! yes. I meant dont tell him!
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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iLive_purpose
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| 01/10/2009 9:37 PM |
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| I agree! If a girl asks a guy if he likes her, its like a dear in headlights. I had that happen once. I was like, Where did that come from? I froze.....(probably went pail too....lol) anyway I would suggest against telling him........If you want to know how to tell if he likes you.....well.......that might be hard. It really depends on their personality type. |
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Austin
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| 01/10/2009 10:52 PM |
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| Okay so I will have to agree on this one. Don't tell him. Trust me. What you should do is give subtle hints and flirt a little. If he likes you a lot, and he is observant, he will pick up on it. But really he will probably talk to other people to see how you feel about him before he makes a move. Guys really do fear rejection, and any guy who says differently is lying, so he will want get some kind of clue as to how you feel about him first. I usually talk to her best friend about her to maybe get a hint. I don't like it when girls make the first move. A girl who does that just comes off as obsessive to me. And I don't want an obsessive girlfriend. |
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JoJo
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| 01/12/2009 3:56 AM |
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But do guys actually pick up on the subtle hints??
I know I give out subtle hints and the guys seem completely oblivious to them. Or maybe they were just shy... i donno |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/12/2009 9:04 AM |
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| yeah, they always seem to miss them! but then again, are they just acting like they've missed them? :p |
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JoJo
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| 01/13/2009 2:24 AM |
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| Any guys care to answer?? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Locke
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| 01/14/2009 1:45 PM |
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Someone summoned me? :p
I confess, we do miss the subtle hints most of the time. We grow up never having to look for them, and then, when we do, we don't think about it until it's too late. But give us a chance and we'll learn. 
I wouldn't tell the guy you like outright that you like him, that scares us.  A girl I know once told me 'I'm interested in you' and that threw me off because I had no idea where it came from. We'd been chatting a lot, but I hadn't done anything especially nice for her - as far as I thought we were just friends.
Speaking for myself, if I'm really interested in a girl, I will tell her. If I don't, the longer I wait the harder it is to let a girl know I'm interested. Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns, or else you'll never get anywhere. It stinks.
The best advice about this I've ever read is this: "Unless a guy comes out and tells a girl he's interested in her, she should assume they're 'just friends.' " (slightly paraphrased. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/14/2009 2:23 PM |
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Unless a guy comes out and tells a girl he's interested in her, she should assume they're 'just friends'
good advice, right there! thank youuu. :] |
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Mike
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| 01/16/2009 9:37 PM |
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I agree, guys are unable to pick up on even the most obvious hints. We're just not in-tune with them like girls are.
And don't tell the guy that you do, because guys want to "slay the dragon and win the princess" as I've always heard. It's better to let him pursue you. If you just fall in his lap, he'll like it but eventually grow restless and want to go find another challenge. Let him pursue you.
Guys often do fear rejection, but I wouldn't say that any guy who says he doesn't is lying. I wouldn't like to be rejected, but I wouldn't fear it either.
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Sandy
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| 01/16/2009 9:45 PM |
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| Guys feel rejection but to what extent. I mean there are different ways of getting rejected. What's the worse? Well at least to you. |
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Mike
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| 01/17/2009 8:24 PM |
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Personally, the worst kind of rejection is when someone that I've opened up to (E.X. a best friend, especially of the opposite sex) says something negative about me in front of others (especially if it is unwarranted), even as just a joke. It's basically say "I don't respect you enough to discuss negative things about you in private, I'd rather blurt them out to everybody and try to make you feel bad so I can feel better."
For instance, my best friend was upset that I was getting an award from school because she works just as hard and never gets anything for it (which I understand). I tried to downplay it and obviously it didn't work because next period class she told people that I was a jerk and "rubbed it in her face" that I get awards and she doesn't. I wasn't extremely upset because I realized how she had worked herself up about it, but I was very disappointed that my best friend would act so immaturely (and we're 18 year old Seniors now too). I could understand if she was upset and didn't want to talk to me for a little while, and then talked it over with me, but to tell other people I was a jerk and lie to them that I had "rubbed it in her face" hurt pretty bad. It was a rejection by my best friend for four years over something as silly as a slip of paper. And then she told me that she "Couldn't help what she said when she was angry." Ridiculous.
Anyhow, that's the kind of rejection that I don't like.
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/17/2009 8:29 PM |
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| great example, mike. thanks for that. i'm very sarcastic (sometimes one of my faults) and can (even subconsiously) use it to hurt other people's feelings. especially guys, because it seems that they "take it better", when that's usually not the case. they just have a harder "shell" as FYWO put it, i'm pretty sure. so it doesn't show as much when we ladies hurt you men. thanks again! :] |
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Mirhanda
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| 01/20/2009 5:29 PM |
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| Wow. Been there, done that, bought a t-shirt. I would not tell him. I told the guy I liked that I liked him back in October. That just did not work out well. It turned into this whole dramatic mess, because he would tell other people that he liked me, but never me. So then they woudl tell me what he said and it just ended up making both of us feel horrible when nothing came of it. In fact I still don't feel that great about it. He's my best friend still, but its just not worth it. I would suggest getting to know him better though, try to become good friends with him. That way you both have time to figure out how you feel about each other. Good luck! |
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maddiegirl
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| 01/29/2009 5:28 PM |
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| All right, so the general idea is that the guy will tell you if he likes you. I have another quick question: none of the guys I've liked have ever said they liked me, but it was kind of obvious with some that they did, but they didn't say it. With the guy I was talking about in this question, he hasn't told me that he likes me, but he sort of acts like it. Several of my friends have asked him if he likes me and he's said yes every time, and he and my brother are great friends and he told my brother (who told me) that he likes me. So should I reconcile myself )-: to being just friends, or should I believe everyonhe else? |
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JoJo
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| 01/29/2009 8:23 PM |
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Id say wait til he tells you, cuz trust me, Ive been there... It turned into this big akward mess. Just enjoy being in his company and build on your friendship.if it's meant to be, it will happen in it's own time.
But yeah, I saw this guy I've just mentioned on the weekend and it was AKWARD as!! I did say Hi and hug him, but everyone could feel the akwardness, even though I was trying to be friendly...
lol. but yeah... Maybe if your bro tells you he likes you again, say to your bro, "Then let him tell me himself." then the ball is in his court. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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