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maddiegirl
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| 01/03/2009 3:22 PM |
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Okay, i know all guys look for different things in girls, but are there any mainstream things that guys totally adore in girls? And not just character things, although those are def. the biggest, like other things too, like do guys enjoy when a girl look them in the eye? just an example
Guys please answer!! Thanx!! |
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calebm94
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| 01/11/2009 3:28 PM |
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Well i don't know about all guys but i know that the kind of things i adore in girl are the little things like you said looking me in the eyes and the faces she makes and the way she twirls her hair and stuff like that i mean i don't mind what she wears and i compliment her but i realy adore the little things she does.
I hope that that helped you .
~caleb~
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/11/2009 9:39 PM |
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it sure helped me! i've heard contradicting claims, but moreso what you just said. that guys like the "little stuff" alot more and pay attention to that more than anything else.
is it true that even if we put a ton of effort into looking special (i don't mean plain "nice", but more formal or dressy than usual) that guys usually won't notice? or do, but are kinda turned off (unless the girl had to dress up, like for an event) because the girl seemed to put almost too much effort into herself, even if that wasn't her intent? |
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Sandy
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| 01/11/2009 10:01 PM |
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| I was wondering the same thing because apparently they notice if we put little to no effort. |
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calebm94
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| 01/12/2009 10:10 AM |
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No it doesn't mean we don't care if you get all dresed up because believe me if a girl gets dressed up even if i am not dateing them i will compliment them andtell them they look "incredble" or just "amazing". So what imeant when i said "the little things" it just means that when you don't put a lot of effort there are still things we guys adore.
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/12/2009 10:47 AM |
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yeah, i understand what you're saying, caleb.
but i recently had a guy friend tell me (he currently likes my best friend and has yet to let her on to this fact at all) something to the effect of, "what the HECK was she wearing?!" see, we had gone to another friend's christmas party and my best friend had worn an adorable (in my opinion, that is) blue cotton turtleneck knee-length dress with black boots and tights. i thought she looked beautiful. my guy friend, however, was horrified. he asked me, "why did you girls have to dress up at all? i didn't know the occasion was formal!" because it wasn't. but all of us girl friends had chosen to wear dresses (nothing overly fancy, but like sunday morning wear) for the night. and my girl friend had painted her nails a cranberry red, which my guy friend also hated. :p
so my question still stands. it's not that i'm riding my fashion on everything he says, no way. but it troubled me that he was so appalled, when i had no problem with what she was wearing, at all. do any of you other guys have advice about why my guy friend reacted that way? |
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calebm94
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| 01/12/2009 10:57 AM |
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Well Emily, I don't know your guy friend but he is sounding like he doesn't know what he is talking about because i think the way you desribed your friend (if your accurat in you description) sound very good looking so I don't know what his issue is with girls looking good but as for my and the guys I know we wouldn' say stuff lke that we wouln't digrade a girl but anyway the only thing i can think of is tht he doesn't eally like her because if he did he wouldn't talk about her that way especialy behind her back.
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calebm94
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| 01/12/2009 11:01 AM |
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Man i am haveing issues typeing today.
Sorry for all typeo's |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/12/2009 11:39 AM |
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haha, well said.
yeah, i often wonder if he has his head screwed on straight, in reference to girls. he has pretty wacky assumptions sometimes and i try to help him, but he was being way out there. you're right, she's definitely good-looking, many of my friends attest to this fact. it's not like my guy friend randomly likes her for no good reason (referring to her looks) because he has many good reasons. not to mention she's someone i look up to extremely, in Godliness, though being almost a year younger than me. so you're right, he's probably just being an odd ball about this, haha.
what do the rest of you think? |
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Austin
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| 01/12/2009 5:30 PM |
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Well I'm a guy! So maybe I can help.
Alright. When a girl gets all dressed up and stuff, I usually think they look a little prettier, but it goes beyond that when you like a girl. Like if we were going on a date, I would feel really cool knowing that she put that much effort into looking good for me. Now if she put that effort into it all the time, it wouldn't mean quite as much, but for those special occasions with a guy, it's an easy way to let him know you like him at least a little bit.
As for things guys adore... I like it when a girl smiles when a smile isn't really called for. I like it when a girl talks. It's really hard sometimes to talk to girls so I like to listen to them talk. Honestly, If a guy really likes you and you are talking and he doesn't listen, it's probably because he's either insensitive and just not listening, or he's so mesmerized by how pretty you look or how awesome you are that he forgets all about the fact that a conversation is taking place. It's happened to me before. So... If a guy is interested in you, he wants to hear you talk.
Well at least I do LOL |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/12/2009 8:46 PM |
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| that is VERY helpful, austin. thank you! :] |
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smartblonde77
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| 01/12/2009 10:39 PM |
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Ok well i'm just gunna see about this....
were having a V-day dance at my church and i don't have a date yet but i know who i wanna go with and i'll just have his dad drag him there!  jk!
But wuld llike guys like to see a black with white polka dots (little ones) with pink silk ribon that ties to a bow on the side like ehat do guys think bout that??? like does it sound cute??? or like wow for get her?? just need to know! |
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JoJo
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| 01/13/2009 1:25 AM |
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Hm... I donno if guys pay that much attention to detail... like if you get your hair cut, they dont often notice etc... but Im not a guy so I dont really know... LOL like I wore this AMAZING red and white dress (it looked like a cremosa lollipop) and it was stunning, and none of the guys noticed it at all!! I was like "hello, are y'all totally blind" but Im sure not ALL guys are like that.  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/13/2009 3:17 PM |
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yeah, jojo has a point. i've heard (i think even FYWO said so) that guys usually don't pay attention to details like that.
but then again, look up at my previous replies on this post. my guy friend seriously went off his rocker when he saw the girl he liked wearing something he thought looked really weird. many would think guys wouldn't notice that, but he did. hmm... |
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Locke
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| 01/14/2009 4:01 AM |
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I'm new here, but I'm willing to take a shot at answering this:
I like it when a girl takes care of herself - she keeps fit, eats healthy, and makes an effort to look good. Not spending hours in front of the mirror (not that I have a clue how long it takes most girls, haha), but enough so that I know she cares about how she looks.
This one's kind of obvious, but I also like when a girl and I have something in common - such as we enjoy the same type of music or we both play the same instrument or are studying in the same field. (that last one almost NEVER happens).
About girls looking me in the eye - it's nice, but I don't particularly care. I don't know how many of you know this, or have noticed, but guys don't usually look directly at other people while having a conversation - sure, we do sometimes, but not all or most of the time. So if you do look me in the eye, that's nice, but again, nothing big.
What I like most, I think, is when I see a girl who I'm friends with (or family) and she's glad to see me. It always makes me feel good to know there's somebody out there who is happy to see me and have me as a friend. That's just the type of guy I am, though.
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/14/2009 8:57 AM |
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thanks, locke! that was all great. :]
especially about a girl being glad to see you. i'm friends with a few guys, but not close or anything. only one or two am i very close with and could ever, ever see anything going on between us. that's good to know that guys appreciate when a girl notices that they actually exist and are glad they're there. (i think your statement was a general one, guys, what do you think? was locke right?) |
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Locke
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| 01/14/2009 1:31 PM |
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Regarding that, I think it's more specific to the type of person you are. Have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages (or the one for singles, which is the one I've read)? Just as no two girls are alike, neither are any two guys. It's definitely worth the effort of observing your girl and guy friends and seeing what their love language is. So yes, a more general statement it is (and now I'm sounding like Yoda).
Other guys might appreciate it when a girl goes out of her way to spend time with him, perhaps, or say he's in the hospital with a broken leg or something and she visits him - doesn't have to be romantic, just kind. Visits from anybody are always appreciated. |
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JoJo
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| 01/14/2009 10:32 PM |
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yes! I agree... When in hospital, or anywhere, a visit from someone is always appreciated! I've been in hospital quite alot, and I HATE being there alone... I normally have dad (or mum when she was still alive ) but having visitors goes a long way to making you feel not-so-depressed!!
Hm... with guys, I like it when they pay attention. and if they inquire about me and what I like doing. I hate it when there are akward silences... If a guy can hold a conversation with me, it's quite a BIG thing!!! yeah, and I agree. I like to have something in common with a guy. and actually, more than one thing is good!!! Guys who can sing, or play guitar... (That's just cuz my dad does, and aparently, girls often like guys who are alot like their dads...)
but yeah...
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/15/2009 12:59 PM |
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jojo, you hit the nail on the head.
guys, it isn't being snobby, when you hear girls say that they want their future boyfriend/husband to be very similar to their dad. i mean, i look up to my dad and i have for 17+ years. he's what i compare every single guy i meet to, whether i realize it or not. sometimes i'll just be like, "wow, that guy's a jerk because..." and then i realize, "haha, it's because he did something my dad wouldn't do!" :p
no, my dad's not perfect, he's been through alot in his life. but my standards are what they are, very much because of him. take heed to that! if a girl doesn't have a father figure in her life, think about that. does she like you for the right reasons? or is she just looking for romance because she doesn't have that daughter/dad relationship at home? it happens, alot.
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Locke
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| 01/15/2009 1:26 PM |
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| Just as girls tend to marry men that remind them of their dads, men tend to marry women that remind them of their mothers.
That's not always a good thing, though, if one or both of your parents was abusive or an alcoholic or something. Just because we're used to it doesn't mean it's something we should seek out in a romantic relationship.
But you're right, it's definitely important to look at what kind of relationship whoever you're interested in has with their mother/father and how they take that into relationships of their own. |
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