Cole
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| 02/06/2009 10:17 PM |
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Ok here's da question guys...Why is it that when us girls tell ya'll that we absolutely luv wen guys open doors and give up seats an stuff like that for us and that it makes are respects level go like way up for you...that hardly any of da guys listen!! Theres so many more out there that wont do that stuff then do... |
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Locke
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| 02/06/2009 11:10 PM |
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| I think it's partly because we don't always believe you (I have a hard time believing it myself, even though I know better), partly because the message culture pounds into us is that chivalry and treating a woman like a princess are outdated and offensive to women, and partly because we forget. It's nothing simple, really. |
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JeffStarr
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| 02/06/2009 11:20 PM |
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Haha. I'm like the opposite of that. Not opening doors and stuff like that seems so weird to me. I've always done that since I can remember. Even to just friends and people I've just met. I guess I'm just very courteous. I think that's a good thing.
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Goodbye cruel world and all you've done
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Cole
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| 02/07/2009 2:11 AM |
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Ya thats awsum wen guys do that!! An Locke, wut you said bout not believin us..For da most part I think that girls rly respect guys that do that stuff! I don't kno ONE girl that doesnt! Thats one way we judge guys...like if i'm in town an a guy holds a door for me I already hav a pretty good opinion of him! So blieve me...Its true! |
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SO1
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| 02/07/2009 12:40 PM |
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| I'll have 2 agree w/ jeffstarr. i'm always opening doors 4 people and if some1 asks me 2 move i'll move. =} |
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Cole
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| 02/07/2009 12:44 PM |
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| well thats awsum!! its just that i only kno a few guys that rly put out an effort 2 do that..an i hav alot of respect 4 them. that is rly cool ya'll do! keep it up! Girls rly notice the guys who do!! |
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Locke
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| 02/07/2009 12:49 PM |
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| As I said, I know girls feel that way, I just don't always believe it. I still do my best to be very nice and courteous, I just don't think that way all the time. |
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Cole
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| 02/08/2009 9:48 PM |
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ya I guess it would be hard to remember to always think that way wen its not da normal thing to do...does you ever feel weird for doin it in front of other guys? would that mayb be one of da reasons sometimes? if you dont mind me asjin |
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Cole
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| 02/08/2009 9:49 PM |
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I mean do* you guys...sry!
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JeffStarr
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| 02/08/2009 10:44 PM |
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I don't feel nervous to do that. But then again I've discovered that I'm quite opposite compared to most guys so idk haha
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Goodbye cruel world and all you've done
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Josiah
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| 02/09/2009 1:26 AM |
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For me i guess it's always been normal to hold the door for girls...that's how i was taught. But as Locke said i still have a hard time believing that girls actually notice it that much... thanks for the encouragement!! i'll try to do it more!
and bout feeling nervous? not really. the worst that's happened to me is being teased about it but then it was with friends so they're gonna tease...but infront of other guys? It's just so normal that i don't think about it. |
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JoJo
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| 02/09/2009 1:54 AM |
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| Just making it clear, It's cool as when guys do that for girls and it makes us respect them more, but if you're obviously doing it just to get us to think better of you, girls see right through it and will think you're a loser lol |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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Locke
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| 02/09/2009 1:47 PM |
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To answer your question, Dare2Dream, no, I don't feel awkward about it… I just have a hard time believing that girls actually like it. Still, like Jo that's how I was taught to behave by my parents, so I do it regardless.
JoJo: yep. Though sometimes girls misinterpret what we're doing and get annoyed with us. |
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JoJo
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| 02/09/2009 7:13 PM |
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Yeah, we do tend to do that Locke...
Have any of you seen "Take The Lead?" It's a dancy movie, but it has a great message. In it, there's this guy (BTW it's based on a true story...) named Pierre, and he decided to teach ballroom dancing in schools, and of corse, not many people think ballroom is cool! But it was because it teaches guys to treat girls with respect, and when girls see how guys can treat them with respect, they're more likely to not let guys push them to do stuff.
But that's not my point.
In the movie Pierre opens doors for all the woman and stands when they enter a room and one of the guys says "Dude, you're being a punk a$$, you aint gonna get no play"
And Pierre says "I get plenty of play, see, all those woman smiled at me."
And the dude says "But you didnt get no numbers!!"
Basically the girls appreciated it when Pierre did it, but when the dude who was talking to him started doing it, They all thought he was an idiot...
You'd probably have to watch the movie to get what Im meaning, it's kinda hard to explain... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Cole
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| 02/09/2009 8:02 PM |
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| I ttly kno wut you're talkin bout JoJo...There's this guy that used to like me(that I rly didnt like at all. he was, or used to be anyway, a jerk, an wenever he did stuff like that it didnt impress me..i just got majorly annoyed! lol. He's cool now tho. |
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