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nicole
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| 07/02/2008 12:52 PM |
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| I know a guy who really helped me find my way back to Christ, but he doesn't know it. We're not REALLY close friends or anything, but we know each other. At first, when I realized how much he helped me, I thought how great of a guy he was, and I wanted to be friends. But, now I like him, and I don't want to because it's a sure fire heartbreak (He likes another girl) And I wish I still thought of him as a good friend, not the guy I have a huge crush on!!! I really am at a loss of what to do! I know nothing's gonna happen between us, but how do I get over it!?! |
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prettygirl
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| 07/02/2008 1:55 PM |
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| yea, i've been there too, it's really hard to get over guys. one thing that i've heard that might work (i haven't tried it) is to pick a verse and every time you think of that guy, quote the verse/verses to get him off your mind. the idea is to become more obsessed with God than with a guy. |
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nicole
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| 07/02/2008 3:10 PM |
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Wow, that absolutely makes sense!Thanx! |
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Hope139
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| 07/04/2008 8:08 PM |
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| I haven't heard of that, but I will keep it in my mind as a good idea! It's really too bad that we don't have a lot of control over who we like, hey? I know I've gone through the same thing on and off with one of my friends but finally I just started committing it to God everyday and praying about our friendship all the time. I don't know if you're like me, but I love daydreaming, and the guys I care about often make my way into my daydreams, but whenever I started thinking about him I made I conscious effort to think about something or someone else, and it actually really helped. One other thing that helped me was to remember that God has that perfect man picked out for me and that I will meet him and things will fall into place in His timing. Anything I try to make happen will not work out and I'll only end up getting hurt. But I have to remind myself of that over and over again somedays! |
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May the Lord bless and keep you, may His face shine upon you, and be gracious and give you peace. |
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prettygirl
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| 07/04/2008 11:47 PM |
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| yea, i totally understand about that daydreaming problem! i do that all the time! it's really hard some times to remember that just because you think the guy is right for you, doesn't mean God meant him for you. |
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JoJo
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| 07/05/2008 7:20 AM |
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| TOTALLY! i have sooooo been there too. what Ive done lately is read this book calles "31 Girl." It's about God's ideal IT girl. and basically it shows you how to start developing the characteristics of a Godly wife. I know it sounds a bit weird to be thinking about that at this time, but trust me! I started reading it and writing a letter to God asking him to help me in the areas I need to work on (as soon as i thought of it) and I actually started giving my relationship with this guy Im getting to know over to God and letting Him do what He wants with it, and I actually feel at peace about it now. It's also helped me grow my realtionship with God ALOT, and I've only been doing it for 2 weeks! maybe that could help you like it helped me... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nicole
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| 07/05/2008 3:04 PM |
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Yeah, reading stuff like FYWO usually helps me to understand things better. I use to be very naive when it came to guys, and relationships, and I'd always wonder why I'd end up hurt. But after reading an article, I realized God has a plan for me, and He probably doesn't appreciate my bad judgement when it comes to guys. My friends were always dating, so I made myself like people (Which is the absolute WRONG thing to do!!!) But after reading the article, I made myself stop, and found friends who would actually help me in my walk with Christ ( that's how the guy I like came in) This time it was a natural feeling, instead of forcing myself. But my friend recently leant me a book, and I found out ways to make it into a friendship, not a relationship. So, I'm looking at him more as a friend now. But I think the earlier you make yourself aware of these things, the better, so then you don't end up making lots of bad choices in the long run.
P.S. I was wondering if you know the author of that "31 Girl" book?
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JoJo
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| 07/06/2008 2:28 AM |
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| Um yes... it's called 31 Girl and its written by Mary Simpson. I got it at a christian book shop... if you cant find it there, try a website like "bookschristian.com" |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 07/06/2008 2:33 AM |
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| oh and she also wrote a book called "girlfriendship" about making your friendships with your besties the best it can be. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nicole
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| 07/06/2008 8:08 PM |
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Thanx! I've been looking for a new book to read. It sounds good! |
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maddiegirl
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| 09/16/2008 7:05 PM |
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| i'd say the best way is to focus on MAKING your relationship a friendship. don't talk to him constantly or stare at him. keep it simple. and tell him how much his help has meant to you in your relationship with God. and just keep it at that. |
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