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JoJo
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| 05/21/2008 5:18 AM |
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Im 19, and I've never had a bf before, not because I havent been asked, but because I wasnt ready. At a christian talent quest, I met this guy (from Y-One, a group of christian people who tour around the country for a year telling people about God.) I didnt think anything of him at first, but he kept trying to talk to me, and when there were lots of people backtage, he always talked to me, and no one else...
They came to my hometown to tour, and I hosted them. He again just wanted to talk to me all the time, and i even caught him taking a photo of me secretly. I see him again in 1 1/2 weeks. With guys, normally it takes me like 2 months - a year before I like them, this guy was basically straight off. He's not exactly what you'd call HOTT, but he is decent looking (o.k. he is super cute, but not hot.) He accepts me as I am, and even though I've only known him for 2 weeks, I feel like there is something different about this one...
One problem is... I was born with a cleft palate, and I've had issues with people thinking Im ugly and even though I have lots of friends and tonnes of guy friends, but I can never seem to get past thinking that guys will never lik me as more than a friend. besides my celft, Im not that bad looking, Im slender (not stick thin...) and I look after myself, Im not weight conscience, but even though God has blessed me in this area, I feel like Im never gonna be good enough for any guy...
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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dramakween
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| 05/25/2008 12:35 AM |
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| well i think that God has a plan for everyone. there is a person out there for everyone, some ppl just dont look hard or long enough. God has a plan for you and just pray about it lots and see what he says back. if you feel ready to date, and this guy seems interested, i think you should go for it. maybe God is trying to tell you something. |
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Bailey
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| 05/29/2008 12:18 PM |
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i think God is tring to tell you something
maybe you need to try to talk to him more this time |
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katesoph
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| 06/23/2008 5:36 PM |
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Well first of all, if that guy really likes you for you he wouldn't care about the outside. I know you probaly heard that before, but it's the God honest truth. Well about you not having a bf and being 19 is really a good thing. I struggled with not having a boyfriend for the longest time through middle school and and then the summer of going into high school i rushed into a relationship that i wish sometimes i never got into. The guy i dated wasn't a Christian and i thought i could change him. I couldn't and i ended up doing things with him i wished i never would have done. Like even kissing him was a big deal. Now i realized that it would have been really cool if the first guy i kissed was on my wedding day and then i could tell my kids that the first guy i kissed was their daddy. But i know that i can't dwell on the past and i really did learn alot from that mistake and how guys will just say anything to get what they want. I didn't have sex with him or anything, but he would bring it up and he pressured me to do things all the time, which was a pain in the butt. Then we finally broke up and it felt feel good actually because it wasn't anything i thought it was going to be. It was just alot of stress. But now im getting off topic, but you have to rememeber that guy wasn't a Christian. So i should have known from the start that relationship was going to be nothing but trouble. So my point is don't just have a bf to have a bf, make sure he is a real man of God and you become really good friends with him too. You just have to be patient. God has the perfect plan for you and you just have to trust Him.
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JoJo
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| 06/24/2008 7:33 AM |
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I totally get that! like I am really glad that I've been able to wait for the right guy, but it is really hard! especially cuz now I want to get on with my life and yeah... I have actually talked to him a bit more, but not much as he is touring etc... I've stopped texting him every week because I feel that its making me dwell too much on the fact that I cant see him until Dec 28th... and because Im inbetween studying atm, I have nothing to do, and because of this, i cant stop thinking about him... dont get me wrong, Im totally talking to God about it all the time! And I think God is telling me that for once, I actually do get what God's saying to me and that this guy is the one, but I also realize I have to give it time, and for someone like me who sadly is very impatient, this is hard! but I've been making sure that the next time I see him, I have talked it thoroughly through with God and have my thoughts straight and can be the woman he needs, like Im making sure I develop the right qualities a good gf/wife would need (from a christian veiwpoint! I wouldnt have it any other way!) so yeah... I am totally going out of my comfort zone and trusting God to take care of it and praying He'll be the center of the relationship... I also know I've only known this guy for a month and a half, so we do need to know each other better as well...
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nicole
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| 07/02/2008 1:13 PM |
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You sound like a really awesome person! God obviously has a huge plan for you! You really shouldn't be concerned about your looks. This will probably sound SUPER cliche by now, and I apologize for the cheesiness of what I'm about to say, but God really did make you in His perfect image. Believe me, don't let your looks set you back. I'm only fourteen, but I struggled with my insecurities for years. I've learned to accept myself, and I no longer want to diet everytime I see Keira Knightley. My point is, God does have that special person for you, who'll love you because you're you! Now, concerning that guy you like, it sounds like he does like you, or maybe at least wants to be really good friends. But I'm cluless when it comes to boy situations. I don't even know how to deal with my own! |
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JoJo
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| 07/07/2008 6:58 AM |
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| yeah, its really hard on me cuz I know that God has a plan for me and this guy, like I just know deep down inside, but not being able to see him, and not knowing when Ill see him again is really eating at me! Its so hard! especially when it feels like a one way convo with God atm... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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maddiegirl
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| 09/16/2008 7:03 PM |
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i think i already answered this question, but whatev.
i'd say pray about it and totally give it all to God. completely.no holdbacks. and just wait for Him.it's tough, but it gets easier when you give it all to Him. |
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JoJo
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| 09/18/2008 5:11 AM |
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Yeah, I have to give it all to him, cuz honestly if i was waiting this long without God, I'd go insane! He's the only one keeping me focused! lol
But yeah, it is really hard and I try not to think about it too much, but every now and then, I get overwhelmed about it and start feeling sad. I havent heard from him in 2 months, so Im getting a bit worried that something's wrong. I message him (and dont worry, I dont message him like every 20 minutes lol  maybe 1 or 2 times a fortnight... maybe not even that much...)
he doesnt reply, but for some reason, he still checks my facebook or bebo... and it's weird... like he wants to know how I am, but wont reply to my messages?? im so confused lol. Maybe he's dealing with stuff and doesnt feel like he can tell me at this point. I dont know...
Please keep praying for me, you guys. It's hard to trust God when I dont see anything happening...
Much Luv! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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