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RiptideUser is Offline

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04/16/2009 10:05 PM  

...one who sometimes kinda likes a girl, but would feel weird going out with her? o.o  (when I say going out, I usually just mean boyfriend girlfriend, not like going to the movies together alone[[im only 13!]])  Like, theres these 2 girls at school I...kind of like...But only one of them I would really want to date.  One of them is in 7th grade like me, and weve been friends since the beginning of 6th grade, 2 years ago.  The other girl is a year older than me in 8th grade and is really nice and pretty.  Just recently (right about as i started to read and finish FYMO =o) theyve both seemed to be a lot nicer to me, hugging me and calling me their best friend and telling me they "love" me.  The 7th grade girl is the one i would rather be boyfriend-girlfriend with, just because...I dont know, besides the fact that shes my age, ive just always felt more like we would be a better couple. (and people say that alot) But today in the hall on the way to orchestra class which i have with both of them, i walked by the 8th grade girl and was saying hi and everything and another 8th grade guy friend she has was there.  She was all like "HI NATHAN!  Nathans my best friend " and all that stuff.  Then the other girl (7th grade) came by and i started walking and talking a little bit with her.  Then we just seperated and walked to class.  (she went ahead of me, and the 8th grade girl was still behind me)
Anyways, after school today, the 8th grade girls guy friend who was there saw me and told me that she liked me.  I was like, "yeah, as a friend only" but he insisted and told me that after i left, he asked her if she would go out with me or if she liked me, and she said yeah and that i was cute, or something like that.  I dont know if hes being honest, but i think he is.

Now, I would rather date the 7th grader, but i still really like the other girl.  I guess more as a friend, but I dont know...I honestly just think its because since i'm younger than her, I feel more like...Ehh, I don't know, like its more up to her whether she likes me or not and stuff and that she has authority over me or something  

Im not exactly sure why im making this, besides just that i wanted to talk about it and ask:

Do any of you guys (or girls) want guys/girls to like you, even if you dont really like them like that or wouldnt want to date them?

LockeUser is Offline

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04/17/2009 12:06 AM  
I think it varies widely. Personally, I'd rather that everyone respects me, even if it means not all of them like me.

Between you and the older girl, even if she is older, I would think she would want you to take the risk and ask her out (if you were inclined to do so). I think you're pretty young to be dating, honestly, but it's up to you, not me.

:)

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JamesUser is Offline

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04/17/2009 1:29 AM  
I'm pretty sure all guys would want to feel popular and liked (especially by girls) but in my experience it can be annoying as well because it's hard to have normal conversations with them because you know they like you.

About your 8th grade girl friend (names can be easier ;) ) she may not really like you even if she would say yes if you asked her out.

You probably shouldn't be looking to date much at your age but I think the girl in your grade would be a better match for you.

Just spend quality time with your friends and you should be able to work out if you should have a girlfriend.
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04/17/2009 7:31 AM  
Hey Riptide! You know I'm only two years older than you but the way you write reminds me of my lil brother and some of me just wants to call you "Cutie" and give you advice (thats what I call my bro much to his shegrin). Anyways now that I've officially creeped you out lol - I think my opinion is to hold on and get your feelings straight first of all. If your stuck between the two of them, I wouldn't suggest doing anything. Feelings are fleeting and short-lived, and if you don't genuinely LOVE either of them, don't get into anything. I know the feeling, back in 7th grade I was totally crushing on two different guys, now one of them drive me insane and I'm good friend with the other, but two years later I have a totally different boyfriend who I love soley. You are young (and I realize to many other posters on this site I am much to young to be in a relationship but ya....) and girls are finally becoming "pretty" to you, but just cuz having a gf is cool, doesn't mean you should go for it. Also, as a chica I have seen many a girl be "huggy" and all "i love you" with guys before, and I would be VERY careful with them. In the 7th grade girls are realizing they have "power" over guys and not all, but many, have suddenly realized the beauty in flirting. Girls want your attention, they want guys to notice them, so that flirty "i love you" stuff, mite just be a way to feel accepted and appreciated. I can't say that for all girls, I know personally flirting and being all "iloveyou!!!!" was just not me, I couldn't flirt, and I felt weird doing it. Nonetheless my point is, try and build some good friendships and don't be concerned with the girl you want or arn't sure you want. Wait untill you find a girl who just blows your mind. Wait for the girl who walks in the room and stops you in your tracks - not becuase she's dressed like a um...yea - but because something about who she is INSIDE glows. Wait for a girl who you know you LOVE, not just like. And at the age of 13, it may be awhile, who knows? God lol but just wait it out, be thier freinds, and dont let thier flirtatious behavior distract or mislead you....kk thats my advice lol

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RiptideUser is Offline

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04/17/2009 6:14 PM  
Yeah, thanks everyone.
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