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runnergirl493
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| 08/29/2008 8:47 PM |
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hey hey guysss! sry i was gone for a while there!
k..so this was kinda my original problem..but its still goin on so here it is again:
Theres this guy i reallllyyyy like...a TON...and he is a senior..2 years older than I, but he's also on my cross country team, so ive known him for a year now and we both know each other pretty well. This guy is an AMAZZZIINNGGG christian guy! I can tell by how he acts and talks, and he is just so different from everyone else (the guys) on the team! While they're being all perverted and gross..he'll be like, why do u guys always talk about that? that's disgusting! And he is also the best guy on the team, so EVERYONE looks up to him! I feel like we're sooo much alike, seriously! we're both fairly strong christian teenagers, we both have the same values (ie: on sex, drugs, dating etc..) and the same interests! But he doesn't seem to see that  he likes this other girl on the team who is a senior..ha. but ive been praying a lot about it and I feel like God told me to wait it out and continue praying and trusting Him..but it's been a couple weeks and I havent heard anything more. im getting soo impatient cuz i like this guy soo muchh!! agghh. i know im probably blowing this whole thing out of porportion but u guys have noooooo idea how much i like him and ive liked him for almost a year now
What do I do?!!?!?!
btw. he knows i like him...its kinda hard not to on a team thats like family, everyone knows everything about everyone..so yeah the entire team knows too (about 90 people ha)
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wjr1991
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| 08/30/2008 8:26 AM |
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I'm kinda a proponent of waiting until marriage is a definite possibility in the near future (perhaps partially because I know what just a small bit of romantic stuff can do to a really good friendship... and I think it's true that it's not worth ruining that.) So, my advise would be to renew your patience... and use the time it takes to become the kind of person worth dating and marrying... I've noticed that there's a lot of energy and motivation in really really really "liking" someone, and that's the best way to harness it- (since I know you're a Christian, I'll add this to you- and anyone else to whom that applies) just send it right into fueling your relationship with Christ, or just general self-improvement... it often gives you an amazing ability to work on that kind of thing- and you'll either end up so satisfied with Christ that you will quit worrying about the guy, or have all the characteristics of a good wife (among which, love, peace, patience- especially that one :-) ) or both! And if you've done that, you may not get this one guy- but you won't get a lemon (or lazy jerk), for sure! (although it'll almost definitely increase your chances with him- if he's really a Christian guy)
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maddiegirl
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| 08/30/2008 5:29 PM |
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Wow I totally know what you mean so here's my advice that had worked for me and has made me a much more peaceful (not worrying about the dude) person:
I'd say give it all to God.Like,seriously. Go find someplace where you can pray without any distractions = your room, at night while you're laying in bed, whenev is a good time for you. Make sure you're alone so that you can totally focus on Him.Then open up and tell Him all about how much you like this dude, and what you're feeling for him, and tell Him all about your impatience. Once you get it all out, in a lot of words or very few, you'll feel better. Then tell Him that whatever happens with this guy in your life, you're going to trust Him with everything.No holdbacks. Then go on your merry (or not so merry lol ) way and whenever you start getting anxious about this guy just give it all to Him. Try it, it really works. |
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JoJo
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| 08/30/2008 10:28 PM |
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I totally understand!!
Im in the same boat. In my case, I have actually thought about marrying the guy. so yeah, i agree with William.
I know it's hard! I am struggling not being able to talk to my guy, and it's annoying cuz he is always checking my bebo page but he never reply's...
but I also agree with Maddie. Give it to God. That's what's helped me. And knowing that God has us in His hands and wont let the wrong thing happen. Basically make sure you include God in your preposed relationship. If God's not in it, it won't be as strong as it should if anything happens.
God should always be your first love, so when you focus on God, it will become clearer what you should do with this guy. If God doesnt like him, (or if the guy doesn't know God...) the relatonship maynot work because it's like having your 2 bff's fighting. it won't be peaceful.
But yeah. continue to pray about it!
Hope that helped! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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runnergirl493
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| 08/30/2008 11:45 PM |
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thanks guys! that does help!
so i have a new problem.
apparently theres a sadie hawkins dance at my HS this year. oh gosh. do i ask him? no? idk!
but seriously..thanks a lot guys, I really do need to just give it completely over to God! cuz He knows what Hes doing! |
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wjr1991
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| 09/03/2008 12:13 AM |
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Hey... you could... as a friend- that's about it- so you'd want to make sure all your better guy friends you could ask have been asked by someone else. Unless you somehow have two crushes at once, it's probably not going to be a date-dance. (or unless you somehow ask a guy who has a crush on you) So, it could be done.
But, my recommendation is that you pray seriously, and talk to your parents (and maybe, maybe the girl he likes, provided she's really nice... and she doesn't seriously "like" him back) that's probably the best you can do... pray and talk to your parents. |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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JoJo
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| 09/03/2008 4:51 AM |
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Yeah I agree. I know what you mean about wanting to go with him to the dance. We have a Ball coming up and I wanted to ask the guy I like, but Im too scared lol.
I'd say if you do decide to ask him, ask him to go as a friend, like William said. That will take the akwardness out of the situation. and hey, maybe you'll become closer as friends. remember the best way to have a good solid relationship is to #1, include God and #2, become really good friends first before going further.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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maddiegirl
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| 09/03/2008 7:52 PM |
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I'd say just ask one of your good guy friends that a friend only 4 now. Try to be friends with your crush before you go ahead and get more into it.
Have fun @ the dance |
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