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David
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| 07/28/2009 6:53 PM |
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I think I know what you mean. I still think it would be more rare than not for him to be joking.
Here's a question for you and for various other ladies, since we're on the subject. When a guy asks you out, would you rather it be much more subtle, ala just hanging out with people which turns into just hanging out alone which turns into him kissing you or something when the moment is right (in this instance, he never mentions his feelings for you and is instead trying to "show" you or something), or would you rather have him come up to you and say something like, "I was wondering, can I take you out on a date?" It seems to me that girls often respond better to a more subtle approach than just outright asking, but I rather dislike the subtle approach as being a guy I have no real idea what she's thinking. If I can ask outright, at least I'll have some idea as to what she thinks. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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JoJo
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| 07/29/2009 12:13 AM |
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O.K. from my perspective, if a random guy who I dont know just "Asks me out" I'll probably say No cuz i don't know him...
That aside... I'd prefer he ask me... cuz if we just hang out and then hang out alone (which I kinda do with all my friends, including guy friends sometimes... so just because I'm hanging alone with a guy doesn't have to mean I like like him) and then if he randomly kissed me, i'd freak out and probably slap him or something... My mum actually was in a situation like that once, and she ran away...
So, I'd prefer to get asked out, as in the guy actually saying something... then it's not so creepy, but idk if I'm the only girl who thinks that way... idk... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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emilyjanelle
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| 07/29/2009 11:16 AM |
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| I have to agree with Jojo on this one. hanging out alone, for me, doesn't necessarily mean I have the hotts for a guy. but on the other hand, if he's been dropping massive hints (which is the situation I'm in now) and I'm still letting us hang out, it should be obvious enough that I have mutual feelings. but again, like Jojo, I still prefer that after a few weeks/months (probably months), the guy comes to me personally and explains himself. I don't want to constantly be "assuming" and then hung out to dry. |
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JoJo
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| 07/29/2009 7:04 PM |
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Exactly Emily!  Hi 5! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Adelynn
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| 09/01/2009 11:35 PM |
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Today I gave a guy I sort-of know (we were in a club, together a REALLY long time ago, but it's not like we were much more than acquaintances, and today we both happened to be at a college youth group type of thing) my home phone number because it was kind of a deer-in-headlights moment. He didn't ask me "out" so I couldn't say "I'm not really into dating..." All my preparations and... I still caved. I actually feel really guilty that I even gave it to him... I'm not even sure he's going to actually ask me out... but if he doesn't, how do I still make sure he gets that I'm not interested in him?
And for the record, I just don't "click" with him. My friend calls him "awkward." His interests are so far from mine it's not even funny, but he knows I'm into theater and stuff so he was talking about auditioning for a play. I kind of rolled my eyes at that, just because I hate when people fake interests just because they know I like something, but I don't think he noticed. He wears his car keys around his neck and has three carabiner clips for his other keys (which he proudly showed me). I have an infatuation with carabiners (not that he knew) but these were over the top. That's why. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Jonathan
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| 09/11/2009 5:22 PM |
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No matter what, God should be in Control, I believe that when God is in control and you ask a girl out its important to be right with God,
Proverbs 31:30 says;
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
I live by this, and I have conviction and know that God will allow things to happen at his time, I want a girl that fears God, Because in the long run your gonna be trapped even in a bf or gf relationship if he or she is not what God has planned for you.
God bless,
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Nicole
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| 09/11/2009 6:03 PM |
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| Well to answer David's Q: I would personally like a guy to come up to me and ask me out, rather than him "showing" me. Actually I think i'd run away like a scared rabbit if it came to that. My personal preference is that i get to know a guy a little better before he even asks me out, or before i even accept. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Adelynn
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| 09/11/2009 9:58 PM |
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| I would totally want the guy to be honest and upfront. I hate wondering if a guy seriously likes me or not. I like to know where we stand with each other. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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