SO1
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| 09/06/2009 3:07 PM |
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| ok, so my parents dont want me to date till i'm 16 (my birthday is in April and i'll be 16 then... and this girl is like a year younger than me and her parents are fine with her dating) but...i think she's a really cool girl and i talk with her alot and i would like to eventually ask her out, and i don't wanna go behind my parents backs and go against what they told me... so my question is i wanna tell her i like her, but i dont wanna do that too soon and i want to let her know somehow that i do like her, but i have no idea how to say that or what to do... soo i like just want her too know that i am interested in her, but i dont know how to say it or if i should just tough it out and wait till i'm 16.... if u have any advice i'm all ears!! thanx |
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JoJo
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| 09/06/2009 8:13 PM |
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O.K. lol for me it's kinda random when people talk about their parents giving them age restrictions 
just because when I was like 12... My dad used to joke (he thought it was a joke, I was terrified...) that when I turned 15 I'd have to move out... and I was horrified thinking I had to live by myself at 15...
but dad's never really given us age restrictions and me (being 20) have never had an official boyfriend and my bro, who just turned 18 has only just had his first gf...
ok now to the question... (yes I do talk about random as stuff, ignore it if it's too random lol  )
If it was me and I was given an age restriction, (bear in mind Im a girl too) I'd wait til I was the age my parents said... just because I want to respect my parents. That doesn't mean you have to completely ignore the girl you like... but just dont be "too forward" atm. but like you can talk to her, compliment her w/e just don't tell her you like her atm cuz telling her you like her is sorta kinda the same as asking her out in the fact that both things are "letting the person know you like them." cuz if you do tell her you like her, and she likes you back... and you're not 16 yet... she might wonder why you aren't asking her out, and then might get hurt... |
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SO1
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| 09/07/2009 8:31 AM |
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| haha, thanx JoJo, and i don't mind the randomness, lol. but i do get what you are saying and will definatly wait!! thanx |
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maddiegirl
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| 09/07/2009 3:39 PM |
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i think you could tell her u liked her - but make sure she likes u back, because that could "scare" her and she might pull back and act pretty weird 4 a little while, lol. & dont go against your parents wishes......i shouldnt be saying something like that b/c i def. have and probably will, but wait until ur 16. focus on building a great, strong relationship w/ her 4 now.
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Abi_xD
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| 09/13/2009 6:37 AM |
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sounds like your around the same age a me, its kool to talk to someone who isnt like in university on this site for once
i just want to say that only waiting till your 16 isnt really that bad
specially considering i wont be allowed to until im like 40!  {jks}
yea i dont really have any advice just reminding you it could be worse
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Abi_xD
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| 09/13/2009 6:37 AM |
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sounds like your around the same age a me, its kool to talk to someone who isnt like in university on this site for once
i just want to say that only waiting till your 16 isnt really that bad
specially considering i wont be allowed to until im like 40! {jks}
yea i dont really have any advice just reminding you it could be worse
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Abi_xD
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| 09/13/2009 6:39 AM |
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| sorry for posting that twice = ] |
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SO1
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| 09/13/2009 5:57 PM |
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| hahas, it's all coolio, i actually just went over to her house today!! it was a blast... and Abi xD i definately agree that it could be worse!! i have some friends who aren't allowed to date till they move out of their parents house!! lol, idk how they can deal w/ it! but all seems to be going well!! |
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clare
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| 09/14/2009 1:42 PM |
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| I'm not allowed to date till 20 (I'm 19) that's the family rule. I broke it and I'd never advise anyone to ever do that! going behind your parents backs never works. The stress and guilt will wear your health out..as it has mine. I fessed up to my parents and am living the life where not a word I say is trusted. So you think 16 is a long wait? How bout 20? And one thing to think about..you probably don't want to be married in the next year or two! I don't know what your views on dating are, but just enjoy the freedom of being friends before you make it a serious ralationship. Maybe you don't want it serious but just want to date her, that's ok but when a relationship goes from being friends to dating friends, there's alot more strings attached! So enjoy being her friend and someday if you date, it will be the most wonderful experience you've ever had! |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 09/17/2009 7:16 AM |
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| Agreeing with Jojo, age restictions are strange. I think it depends on maturity. I mean, I was 14 when things started with me and my ... ex ... but like for my sister she might be like "NO WAY not till your older" Age doesnt help much. But hey, you are under your parent's roof. Obey thier rules. Disobediance is not a good idea. |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 09/17/2009 7:19 AM |
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| "she" is my mom lol -sorry for the lack of clarification |
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I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life. |
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Christina
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| 09/17/2009 2:01 PM |
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So I totally understand. But I also do think that waiting until you are older to date is wise.
Because if you look at the facts the reason you date is to find someone that you are going to marry. So why would you date until you are able to get married?
Because honestly if you get involved with someone young it is pretty much certain that it won't last. But you will get emotionally involved and possible give a part of your heart to that person. So when you break up you won't get all of what you gave back. And you will have already given some of your firsts to that person. First time holding hands. First kiss, First time cuddlling on the couch ect.
So when you do find that person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, you can't give them all of you because you don't have it. It is still with that ex, whether you like it or not.
I am 19 and my parents age restriction was 16 I have yet to have a BF, but I don't want one at the moment. It has been very important to me to keep God at the center of my life and He will bring the right people into my life at the right time. I haven't held a guys hand had my first kiss or any of that. I am going to save it for the person that I will marry. And I believe that as long as I keep my focus on God and do what He is telling me that the person that I do date will be the person that I am going to marry. I don't intend on wasting my time if it isn't going to work out.
I want to be able to tell my husband that I cared enough about you before I knew you to wait for you, you were worth waiting for.
So thats my speil. I apologize if it sounded preachy but that is something that has been laid on my heart and is very important to me. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 09/17/2009 3:31 PM |
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But I also do think that waiting until you are older to date is wise.
Because if you look at the facts the reason you date is to find someone that you are going to marry. So why would you date until you are able to get married? ... And I believe that as long as I keep my focus on God and do what He is telling me that the person that I do date will be the person that I am going to marry. I don't intend on wasting my time if it isn't going to work out.
I want to be able to tell my husband that I cared enough about you before I knew you to wait for you, you were worth waiting for.
my gosh! couldn't of said it better myself! *virtua high-five* =] |
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SO1
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| 09/17/2009 4:05 PM |
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| Christina... i get what u are saying, and i have been thinking about (and hopefully!!) waiting till i'm married to kiss a girl... i like the idea of courting and that stuff.... and i don't plan on dating a girl unless i know i really really like her.... and i also agree w/ MyLifeHisWill, dating age could be based on the maturity of the people.... but i get what you all are saying and it's definately making me think!! thanx for your responses!!! |
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