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LOGHANDIUser is Offline

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01/26/2010 7:41 PM  
Well everyone, i finally got a chance to ask the girl out to a nice restaurant and she said yes.

She also later said "we are going as friends right?"

I said yeah to not make it awkward

Is their any chance for me still?

Can it turn into more?


help...
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LizUser is Offline

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01/26/2010 7:50 PM  
Well, keep being friends, and hopefully she'll "See the light" haha
Just keep acting like you are now, but don't push it if she's not ready
A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her
AdelynnUser is Offline

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01/26/2010 9:32 PM  
She said yes, so those are some major mixed messages... guys and gals don't usually just "hang out" and go out to dinner all at the same time... was she trying to clarify where you were coming from, maybe? If you asked her to go out with you to dinner, that is different from saying "Hey, I know this awesome place, you should come with me..." they can be interchangeable, but there is still a difference... does that makes sense?
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clareUser is Offline

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01/30/2010 7:43 PM  
Did you go out yet? How was it?
clareUser is Offline

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01/30/2010 7:45 PM  
oops wasn't done.
Don't give up yet. It may be that she thinks of you as a friend but if you're a nice guy and you do things together I'm sure she'll start liking you:)
DavidUser is Offline

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02/01/2010 12:01 AM  
Ouch. I hate situations like that.

Truthfully, I'd just be honest with her. Maybe this is just coming out of my own bad experiences and those of guys I know, but if you want to date her, be up front about it. If she isn't into you then move on (unless you can legitimately be her friend and nothing more). But if she asks if you are going as just friends and you were to say, "No, it's supposed to be a date," then you at least will end the day with the truth instead of confusion.

As far as what some of the girls are saying, I'm going to have to disagree. While in rare cases a girl will come around, most of the time trying to be her friend in hopes that she'll like you just doesn't work. Ironically and sadly, often being a girls friend influences her not to be romantically attracted to you.
Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.

- C.S. Lewis
AllieRayUser is Offline

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02/01/2010 10:02 AM  
As usual, David is correct. You need to be honest with her. From a girls perspective, she probably kinda knew that you wanted to be more than friends, and either she was really nervous and was trying to make herself more comfortable, or she doesnt want to date. And again, I'm with David, the closer you get as "just friends" the more she will want to remain "Just friends"... sorry I know thats probably not what you wanted to hear, but that is reality in most cases. Now I'm sure there are some exceptions out there, ya know, the more she gets to know you the more she will like you or something, but I kinda doubt that is the case but you never know:D Hope it works out for you!

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Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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