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Subject: Need a good christian guy's opinion
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JesusRocks!User is Offline

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01/28/2010 9:19 PM  
There is a guy that I have been interested in for a while. From what i've seen he may be interested in me as well.To sum him up he is a gr8 Christian guy who truly loves the Lord, smart, funny, good with his family. Both of us are waiting until college to date. I am the girl that tries hard to be the good christian and I see myself as (not the drop dead gorgeous type) pretty, well there is a girl that is one of those sickingly pretty types that has the looks working for her, but is also very trashy and self-absorbed (in short she likes to have boyfriends and every guy's attention). Well this girl has interest in the guy i am interested in and I am scared that he is going to fall into the trap like most every other guy at my small school. I am trusting God tho and know that this is a test to see if he is the real deal. They have sat by each other a few times this week tho ,but he has still been very sweet to me (as in has been talking and complimenting)... i'm just confused and was basically wondering if u were given the option "completely gorgeous yet not a "good girl" or pretty yet "good girl" which would u choose? Do u think a good christian guy like this one will end up falling for her? Sorry for this crazy long message btw and thanks!
CowCud1992User is Offline

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01/28/2010 11:22 PM  
Hey, well for me i find that if the girl is pretty i will kind of have initial attraction but when i know what they are like on the inside then i will have only a surface friendly relationship with them nothing more. I have WAY more respect for the girl whom is not self absorbed and loves god than the one with all the looks. If he has integrity then most likely he will not go for her.
Grant I.User is Offline

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01/28/2010 11:41 PM  
If he's as good a Christian guy as you think he is, it should be a no-brainer. Sure I'd love to have the prettiest girl around as my girlfriend, but physical attributes don't make a girl beautiful to me. If he's got a good head on his shoulders, and he is attracted to you, then I would say he'll go for you! If I was to choose, it would definitely be you! To me there is nothing more attractive than a beautiful girl that doesn't know it, or at least doesn't act like it, and nothing uglier than the local "knockout" who knows it very well, and holds it over the heads of all the other girls. Whatever you do, don't compromise anything just for him, or just because you want him really badly. Good luck, and I'll pray that God sends him your way if it's meant to be, or gives you strength and courage if He doesn't.
Cerno4500User is Offline

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01/29/2010 2:10 AM  
A hot girl who is into only in herself and holds other guys attention can be tempting to a guy. But if this guy is who you say he is, then you have trust god that he'll make the right choices. And you also have to know how valuable you are to God and everyone who loves you.
JesusRocks!User is Offline

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01/29/2010 11:08 PM  
Wow, thank ya'll so much! You def. gave me some encouragement to trust! I know God has His plans and I am very happy to hear input from real christian guys like yourselves!! May God Bless you and continue to guide u as well!
wolfUser is Offline

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06/18/2010 8:45 PM  
I would choose the not as pretty but good girl. i tend to think in long terms and kno tht dating is supposed to be a test to see whoo u will marry. and if he truly is as good a guy as u say he does too. i wouldnt step out of the way tho. u dnt hav to go on the offensive but jst keep interacting w this guy. if you play ur cards rite and if God truly intends for u 2 b 2gethor then the other girl doesnt stand a chance. :)
ClockworkUser is Offline

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08/01/2010 1:05 PM  
Hey, I really think you should relax and not even sweat it. Honestly, if the guy you're interested in has any ethics at all he will choose you. I know I would if I had the option between you and that other girl. I mean think about it, if he is relying on God to show him the right person for him (which he should be) then there is no way he can fall into that trap. Those who fall into snares guised by beauty typically have a veil over their eyes. That veil being sin. Which means yes it can happen to christian guys, but if he is right with God and focused he will see through her. Trust me, in reality guys with ethics and an agenda filled with goals will be able to decipher those hidden snares and tricks covered by outward beauty. It's just like how the Bible says (not a direct qoute) the enemy comes in the form of an Angel of light. If you have sin in your life you can be deceived by the enemies looks, but if you are on track with God the Holy spirit will guide you through. Read Psalms 23 the whole chapter. That should help with reassurance. Hope this helped. And remember he is not perfect, he might make a mistake and go for her, but doesnt mean he will stay with her. I am sure it won't take long for him to realize she is NOT the way to go. And if he chooses neither of you, either he is not for you, or it's not the right time.
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