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Subject: Best Friends, I want more.
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Ballet DancerUser is Offline

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02/20/2010 6:12 PM  
Well my best friend just broke up with her girlfriend, and now that he is single I realized I don't just want to be friends. I realized after they broke up, that I'm ''falling'' for him, I started to crush on him. After he got dumped we were talking about my crushes, I didn't really want to tell him I liked him, but he did tell me that he liked me, but he didn't want to think of me in another way because he values our friendship. Some time after that, he told me he didn't like me anymore and that he liked this other girl in our class. When he told me that, I was kinda broken, because I wanted him. We tell everything to each other, we support each other, we care about each other. I just don't know how to tell him that I like him, and that I want to be his girlfriend, not just friends. I really think that we are good for each other, that we are a good match for each other. Should I tell him? Should I not? I don't know what to do, and I would really appreciate your help and thoughts. Thank you, ~M.
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02/20/2010 8:22 PM  
Oh boy thats tough, wat its really gonna come down to is how much your willing to risk to be with him. Are you willing to give up your friendship for a chance with him even though he likes somebody else right now. If not, then i wouldnt tell him and im sorry for wat your gonna have to deal with. If your willing to put your friendship on the line, then you might want to tell him, but be aware of the consequences if it doesnt work. But most importantly, the first thing you should do is pray about this and see wat God wants you to do. Good luck.
" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"

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02/20/2010 9:54 PM  
Ok the first thing I usually start out by asking is how old are you? Are you at an age where the relationship will be more than a couple of weeks. I have known very few underclassmen (some,.. but not a whole bunch) that have had their "relationships" last more than maybe a month or two at most. Now if you are at an age where relationships are important and you are genuinly willing to work thru any problems or struggles you may have I would say Go for it. BUT (dont ya hate the buts? lol) you have to go all in. That doesnt mean giving him your virginity or anything but it means that when and if you start dating there is no turning back. Your friend relationship will never be the same. Yeah you might eventually go back to being best friends ("telling eachother everything" and stuff like that) but you would have to work for it. It wouldnt come as natural as it does now (unless you are very rare in you just go back to where you left off which is unlikley because for some reason after you breakup.. things just seem more AWKWARD!!! lol) So yeah lol. Oh and one more thing to add, from what I have heard and seen, guys cant just turn off emotions, which means he probably still likes you, but maybe feels embarassed that he told you or maybe feels like he is betraying the other girl he likes for liking more than just her. So thats my two cents for what its worth lol:D hope it helps!

Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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