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Beckah
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| 02/22/2010 9:54 PM |
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| Hey Ya'll
There's this guy that i really like and I dont think he knows that I do...we have been emailing each other for about 3 months(i knew him for like 5 years).. he's always saying nice things about me and such. He told me that when he gets his new cell phone, he would email me his new number,this was the 3 weeks ago and he hasn't emailed me since. I have sent like 6 emails within 2 weeks.
how do I know if he likes me? do talk to him about it? what do I do?
Plus:...
My best friend knows him too, and he emailed her his number last week wednesday and not me... I asked if she could give me his number, she said no so that was that.
But just the other day she seemed jelous about me and this guy. She told my older sister that she was jelous about me and this guy. yet she told me she wasn't.
He is my best guy friend and she is my best girl friend. So she's like "well you can hang out him at the conferance, because I dont care, cuz my friend is going to be there and im going to hang out with her"..see we planed on hanging out together with this guy. I dont know what I did to her make mad. She acts as if i can't hang out with anybody but her..
wow I needed to vent a little.
So am I over reacting?
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Adelynn
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| 02/23/2010 9:41 AM |
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Maybe he has figured out that you like him and he's trying give you the hint that he doesn't want to lead you on by giving you his #.
Do you see this guy face to face? Either way, you probably should look up the post on here about long-distance relationships, I don't want to reiterate it all, but there are some major issues with falling for a guy over email (as you've probably realized =) and I've lived through them =P |
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AllieRay
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| 02/23/2010 10:25 AM |
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| Wow this is a hard one.. you dont want to lose your friendship but you also want to be up front with your friend and you want her to be up front with you. And, sadly, this might mean determining which friendship is more important to you, they guys or the girls. So yeah, sorry its not great advice but yeah.. |
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Liz
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| 02/23/2010 2:21 PM |
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I have a similar situation!
I have a "policy" that I don't give out other people's numbers or anything, and my friend can't get that drilled into her head. She texted me a few days ago and asked me for a guy's number
again and I was coming down with a touch of the flu so I was feeling all grumpy and tired so I texted back and was like "won't you stop bugging me about this, you know what my answer is. my mom agrees with my not giving out numbers so just quit asking me". But later i felt kind of bad, so I texted her and said "sorry, I'm not feeling well and i didn't mean to sound so harsh." And she totally blew me off and said "well, you were. now can you give me his number?"
Is that a good policy to have? And how do I reconcile with my friend? Is she being obsessive with her want to communicate with this guy? |
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JoJo
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| 02/24/2010 1:41 AM |
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| all I can say is, been in your shoes girl... I hated it, and I realized I was over analizing everything and thinking that he's wanting something more, or... thinking that you'll lose him if you dont contact him frequently... firstly, ALwAYS the guy should be the one trying to contact you. i donno how many times I've ignored that and stuffed up everything. maybe email him and say "Um, did you forget to send me your number LOL" in a fun way, cuz if it's accusing, he'll be put off... but he might have forgot, but yeah... gosh, it's hard to pass on what you've learnt to others when they haven't experienced it... so yeah sorry if this doesn't make sense... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 03/01/2010 2:01 PM |
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If you get persistent it will get very annoying to him. If he wants you to have his number he will give it. I Recommend to really watch out with the emailing, and texting. I have built a whole relationship through texting, and when it ended man was I hurt. You don't get to know the real person.
@ Liz, I think you're rule is a good one. I have a really close guy friend, and a girl wanted his number. I knew she wanted to hit on him, so I called him and asked if he wanted this girl to have his number and his brothers. They both said it was ok they were both leaving the country and could handle it.So maybe if this girl gets to be a bother, you can ask this guy if he wants her to have his number. I will say though, a week or two after I gave that girl my friend's number he came to me for help. She was being very suggestive and talking about improper things openly and he didn't know what to do about it. I told him to cut her no slack and tell her to stop it and to ignore her texts. It sounds harsh but it had to be done. I hope she doesn't bother him when he comes back. So use your own judgment, will giving that guy's number to your friend create a problem for him? |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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Beckah
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clare
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| 03/01/2010 10:44 PM |
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texting relationships...well be careful. My parents tried to set up rules for me and texting and I didn't listen and it has caused me a lot of grief. Only tonight my ex sent me a horrid mean email, and if it weren't for texting I never would have got mixed up with him.
Emotions, facial expressions, and tones can't be seen or heard though texts. It's very easy to take something wrong, and since you're not around the person it is really easy to share personal things you wouldn't normally in person. you can have a relationship i three weeks that would normally take three months, but you actually know the person less.
I just realized I took your question wrong I don't feel like erasing all that.
Ok when is texting a guy too much? Well when you feel like you have to tell him every little thing you're thinking doing or feeling. When if you haven't had a text back in half an hour or hour you start wondering what his problem is and asking what he's doing. And I would advise not to text after 9:00 at night. I didn't want to believe it, but it's true. the later it gets the more personal things you share. and IF the point ever comes where he says I love you or you say it to him, please don't let it be through a text the first time. How cheep!!
When you send over 6,00 texts a month, that's too much I'm a texting addict. oddly, when I'm not dating a guy my texting average is like 600 a month!.... |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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JoJo
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| 03/03/2010 4:46 PM |
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yeah listen to claire
I had a friend who basically only talked to her bf in txts, they never spoke, or hardly did in person, and it ended and all i could think was "Well duh, it was a txt relationship and of course if you NEVER speak in person, it's not gonna work..."
but anyways... pleaseplease be careful, I've been in your shoes, and it wasn't pretty how it ended.
ok the first guy, i txted him every 3 days, I always txted him first (mistake #1) eventually he stopped replying...
second guy wasn't txting, but IM ing. talked to him once every 2 weeks, and idk maybe because of the last one, I thought I'd back off a bit more, but maybe it was too much... who knows...
So now I'm just treating all my guy friends as friends, unless they specifically say different, cuz in the end, it's them who should make the move and be in charge. I'm sick of pansey guys who in their relationships are the weaker ones and their gf's wear the pants....
anyways, back to topic...
I know how much my heart got broken cuz I thought I loved these guys... but it was cuz I was making "us" into something it wasn't and my heart was years ahead of reality...
so idk if you really like this guy, treat him as a great friend, until he maybe says something more... cuz otherwise you get hurt, and he might freak out (lost a few great friendships cuz I freaked the guy out... and it's weird, cuz I'm the one getting freaked out by this good guy friend atm... so the recieveing end isn't that great either.)
read the book "31 girl" about God's "it" girl, from proverbs 31. make yourself into what God thinks is the ideal woman, and you know, then you'll be ready for whichever guy God brings into your life. cuz even when we think we could never live with out mr so and so, once you've moved on (as i have so many times) you realise just how much you overrode your common sense cuz of "Feelings" lol.
i donno what else to say atm... and i'm kinda going in circles... sorry about that, but if you have questions, feel free to ask. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 03/03/2010 4:50 PM |
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oh i can add one thing...
I really wanted this one guy's number, but i didn't wanna seem like a groupie 
so once he asked if we could hang out at a music festival, I said sure, but he'd have to txt me (cuz he had my number, i didn't have his) and he said "Actually, here's my numbers, txt me when you get there"
idk it seemed to work out better for myself personally when the guy willingly gives his number... but idk maybe that's just me... just a thought I thought I'd put down... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Beckah
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| 03/03/2010 11:49 PM |
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Thank you for the awesome advice it really clears things up in my head..
this is a little weird to say and now that i look back at it big mistake....last Friday i was txting this guy from 3:30pm in the afternoon untill about 1:00am, my mom found out about my late night txting(thanks to my sister)lol not like i had anything to hide cuz i didn't, so now mom said he has to txt me first.. I do see this guy once a week because we are in a skit together. ok so theres this other guy that is in the same skit and he found out that i like this one guy and he keeps teaseing me about it, "he's like oh should i tell him that you like him." he wont stop bugging me about it. how do i get him to stop? last night after skit practice i was sitting by him and i saw part of a txt he was writting it said "i luv u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" i donno who he was sending it to but i asked him "i luv?"
and hes like "u, i luv u" i said "huh? me? yea right." i was cunfused but he dint say anything more and i left it at that.. i know lame, right?lol
So what about sending pictures? like a face shot only. or random pics of my room?
i have a feeling that its not a good idea, but thought i would just ask....
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clare
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| 03/04/2010 6:37 PM |
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It probably wouldn't be the best idea to send pictures yet! I guess it's your choice. If you already like the guy and you have a picture you'll probably look at it often!lol and you can get your imagination ahead of reality.
Talking about giving out numbers!! I email a guy a lot about, and though I never met him, he's a great friend. And my ex sent my a nasty mean email full of horrible things about me. I sent my friend his number and he gave my ex a firm word or two and I've had no trouble! My brother is standing guard if my ex tries that again. So I kind of broke my giving out numbers rule but it was worth it. Two guys in one week both telling me I'm stupid and not worth standing up for...that hurt! My brother dealt with the one guy. Few guys aren't jerks but thank God for the few! |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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Beckah
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| 03/04/2010 10:29 PM |
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I will think on the picture thing for awhile..lol
Wow I wish i had an older brother! i have two little brothers that drive me bonkers. sorry randomly off subject!
Any more advise from anyone would be awesome. thanx |
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