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ChristinaUser is Offline

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02/26/2010 3:27 PM  

Ok so there is this guy. We've been friends for quite a while. We started hanging out a lot, we started dating towards the end of january, and everything seemed fine. He recent got a job and was working full time and a full time student.  So we went on a break until his schedule got under control.

Nothing changed in our relationship though. We still talked all the time, ate lunch together... But last week he started acting weird. He stopped answering my texts, and we had a walk-out on Wednesday, he ignored me the entire day, was acting very buddy buddy with another girl, and talked to my cousin who was with me that day, but wouldn't even look at me.

I sent him a text asking him why he was ignoring me, he never answered. But on Thursday he went out of his way to say something to me, even though it was just Hi. But at lunch he was eating with the same girl from Wednesday, I sent him a text telling him I was mad, and I when he wanted to talk about this he knew where I was. He replied with a ok,later. Later that night he texted me saying he was busy now and probably all weekend, but if he could he would let me know.

Today I was at the salad bar standing right next to my cousin, he walked by and said hi to my cousin, but didn't even look at me.

If any guys can give me any insight into what is going on. What I should do. It would be much appreciated.

Thanks


Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12
AllieRayUser is Offline

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02/26/2010 3:54 PM  
Ok here is a few things I picked up from this. Firstly, why are you mad that he has been hanging around another girl? Did you think that he wanted to be "more than friends" before? Or are you just mad that he is spending more time with her than he is you? Second, sometimes guys just need space.. They are weird creatures (in all due respect lol) and sometimes they just need room to think. Another thing, maybe he feels bad about being best friends with you and liking her at the same time. Like maybe he isnt giving her his full attention or whatever. And hey, maybe she has asked him not to communicate with you so much or whatever. I dont really know him or you or your relationship so I cant really answer this fully. Maybe I have been completly off this whole reply.. Idk.. But thats just what I picked up from it. Hope it helps! :D


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Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
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nateynateUser is Offline

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02/28/2010 3:25 PM  
Oh boy, im gonna give it to you straight cause theres no other way to put it and im sorry. But it sounds to me like he might be trying to get with another girl and he has to push you away the. You said you guys dated but started taking a break until his schedule calmed down. Im guessing that hes thinking you two never "officialy" broke up and so now that hes interested in this other girl, hes trying to push you away now. Thats wat it seems to me. Honestly though, i hope im wrong for your sake cause wat hes doing is being a jerk. I just hope things work out for you.

" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"

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clareUser is Offline

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02/28/2010 6:13 PM  
A guy did that to me once, and since we weren't officially dating he felt he didn't need to "break up" with me and could just transition from me to this other girl. You have a right to be mad, I sure was! But sometimes guys don't know what they're really doing. I guess you can ask him and say "hey if you want to date that other girl and not talk to me, just tell me so I can stop wondering" it hurts really bad to hear a guy say ya I'm not that into you, I like her better. But you can move on in time.

sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....

ChristinaUser is Offline

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03/04/2010 4:32 PM  
Thank you all so much. With the other girl situation. She had a boyfriend, who wasnt' him. I knew her before we worked in communicating offices for a while... And just recently like Saturday they broke up... So I was thrown completely off by that.

But for an update, I called him out basically on his not spending time. And he has definitely been trying. We are back almost to our friendship. I havent decided whether I am going to let him back in to the extent he was before. Because I dont have proof he wont do that again. And if I do he is going to have to prove he wont do that again.

He still hangs out with that girl... But Ive prayed a lot about it this past weekend and have come to a complete turn around with my attitude. I have a new and different outlook. :) So while Im not completely over what happened It is Much better.

I want to thank you guys soo much for your insight.

And for Nateynate. Its quite funny your thoughts were exactly what I was thinking, even though I was praying I was wrong. Im not sure whether we are or not but we shall see. And FYI I laughes because the guys name is Nate. :P Thanks much

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12
ChristinaUser is Offline

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03/04/2010 4:35 PM  
And Clare thats exactly what I want to do. what I have wanted to do. but my issue with that was that I didn't want to do it over text, and I wasnt going to do it in a group of people. And he's been 'busy' So finding a time to do that is difficult, we still havent but he is suppose to come over this weekend.
He had to quit his job, because they werent' understanding of his school schedule. So he now has plenty of time. So we will definitely find out whats going on know I suppose. :P

Thanks Again!!

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12
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