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SarahUser is Offline

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09/28/2010 8:02 PM  
Hey! I'm a Christian 18 year old girl who's had medical issues my whole life; I'm pretty much okay with them. I mean, I can't change them so, yeah. Anyway, I've had an ileostomy since age 13 (look it up if you don't know what it is) and I've never dated because of all my medical issues. So I'm kind of worried how a guy might react when I tell him I have an ileostomy (I'll have to eventually tell whoever I'm dating). I look normal otherwise, and the ileostomy is hidden under my clothes. But it is kind of making me insecure. So what would you guys really think about it? Would it matter to you if a girl had an ileostomy? I mean, would you date/marry someone with one?
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09/29/2010 3:09 AM  
I dont know what that is... but if it helps, I have a cleft palate... and at the moment, the only really oblious thing is my nose is skew... but I have to wear a perminant retainer behind my upper teeth, otherwise my teeth will revert back to how they were when I was born... and it took ages to get it fixed. so I kinda know what you mean, I wish I could say I dont want anymore operations, cuz I dont, they suck so bad!! but I can't help thinking no guy'd ever want to even consider dating me because of my skew nose. and it sounds silly, but I think about it all the time.
I think any guy worth anything will not mind, or will get over it. but if you're anything like me, you know this, but it's hard to accept :P

donno if that really helped or not... :D
Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live

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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo
lukeUser is Offline

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09/29/2010 2:49 PM  
I just looked it up....sure, maybe it'd be a little hard to get used to atfirst, but any guy that would hold that against, as opposed to your personality, and who you are, Isnt even worth your time.
Luke 6:48, (THE MESSAGE) "If you work the words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who dug deep and laid the foundation of his house on bedrock. When the river burst its banks and crashed against the house, nothing could shake it; it was built to last.
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09/30/2010 9:35 AM  
It's a detail and a detail is never the big picture. I'll admit it would be a stretch at first for me too, but I make it a point to not let details take over the big picture. I'm sure, nay, I know there are guys out there who thinks the exact same way!
Hope that helps!
One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito
SarahUser is Offline

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10/02/2010 2:41 PM  
Thanks everyone :)
clareUser is Offline

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10/02/2010 3:10 PM  
I didn't look it up...but i have gone through medical classes...so yeah. We all deal with medical issues in some way or another. I have some appointments coming up and I'm kinda scared! My issues are all health wise and sometimes I think it's so unfair for my BF, cuz there is very little food I can eat, chances are I have arthritis maybe pretty bad, and just a whole list of things.
I think if a guy truly loves you, he will be understanding and accept you the way you are. Right at first he might be a little scared, or afraid he'll hurt you. But he will adjust in the same way you had to. Many people deal with it and lead normal lives, married, dating, whatever. Just be sure you are secure in yourself and that will help the guy. I know it will be hard.
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