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Subject: I met a couple girls at church. I don't know there name or age and I wanna get to know them. What should I do?
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MikestarUser is Offline

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10/08/2010 12:21 PM  
They both seem to love Jesus. They are sisters. And I can't tell how old they are. And I'm kinda hoping to start a relationship sometime soonish. But I don't want to do anything until I know how old they both are. Cuz I don't want one of them to be engaged or have a bf and end up in a boat load of trouble and embarrasment. What can I do?
Lucky AlbatrossUser is Offline

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10/08/2010 4:13 PM  
First off, welcome! :)

And to answer your question, don't overthink it! Talk to them! Just stick yourself in the middle of the conversation and go from there. Crack a joke or two! Or if they're shy, invite them into your circle of friends. One of the first questions people ask when they're getting to know someone is how old they are. Best case: you have two new friends to get to know. Worst case: you have two new friends to get to know.

Seems paradoxical, but don't start this relatioship looking for a relationship. You can scare many a girl off that way. Just keep it easygoing and fun for a while. If she's interested, you'll know.
One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito
clareUser is Offline

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10/09/2010 1:52 AM  
you want to start a relationship with both???hehe or just one in particular! :) just go talk to them. Walk up and say hey I'm * what's your name? ask about hobbies, how they ended up going to your church, if they are that close in age looking, ask if their twins. Quick way to find out who is older :D
NikkiUser is Offline

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10/18/2010 5:38 PM  
Just introduce yourself casually, ask how long they've been coming to youth group, chat about music, movies, whatever. If its the right time in the conversation, just mention," Oh, cool. What grade are you in?", etc. I can't stress it enough: DONT RUSH! if a guy is kinda staring at me a ton, talking to me all the time, etc, it turns me off, even can creep me out sometimes. Don't go into the friendship looking for a relationship, get to know them for at least a couple months, get to know their personality. Some girls will act nice, but they're really trying to get to know you, then break your heart since they've been hurt before. If it's really who God wants you to marry, then He will show it to you in His own time. If you try to write your own love story, it will not turn out as beautiful as if he writes it. So just get to know them first, get to know what they're like. Also, don't let thinking about them get in the way of spending time with Christ, and asking what his plan for your life is. Hope this helps! Nikki
LoLoUser is Offline

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11/27/2010 12:44 PM  
I totally agree with Nikki. Those are some wise words Mikestar!
BeckahUser is Offline

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11/27/2010 8:05 PM  
Nikki... couldnt have said it better myself.. lol :)
"Check yourself before you wreck yourself"
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