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emma anne
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| 05/23/2008 12:07 PM |
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How do you know if a boy likes you?
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dramakween
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| 05/25/2008 12:30 AM |
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| i think you know a boy likes you when he asks you out. honestly thats the only way you can tell. ok thats the only way I can tell, but i guessi f he's flirting with you, asks for your number, asks you lots of random things...maybe? |
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wjr1991
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| 05/26/2008 5:52 PM |
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haha... dramakween, you nailed that one :-) yeah, the only way you can know a guy likes you is if he tells you, or implies it very strongly... like asking you out. That's the only way to know- however I'm sure there are ways to guess :-)
(ok, I'll admit here that I'm wondering the same thing about girls liking boys- would anyone care to explain how a guy would know (or have reasonable certainty) that a girl "likes" him? it seems it would fit the title better too) |
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dramakween
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| 05/26/2008 6:45 PM |
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| well we only flirt like CRAZY!!! Actually i think boys are just oblivious to our flirting, no offence, but whenever i flirt the guy just doesnt seem to notice. But we also will come up and talk to you and try to get to know you and we also will say we like things that you like even if we dont. i hate rap music, but my crush likes it so i said i did just so maybe he would like me back, yeah gals dont try that. any way some of us get really red, or stutter a lot around a cute/handsome/hot boy. does that help? |
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emma anne
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| 05/27/2008 11:19 AM |
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yeah if a girl likes a guy she will most likely give him a lot of attention. If a group of girls giggles when ever you pass one of them likes you or you have toilet paper stuck to ur shoe.
If a girl you don't know calls you all bye her self with no giggling in the background she likes you.( or is one of ur best frinds) if she always seems to be standing near you by choice but doesn't talk to you she might like u |
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Rachel Ann
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| 06/02/2008 9:51 PM |
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| I like a guy in my class, and we are really great friends. But, thats the problem, he only wants to be friends. I want him to like me, but i dont think he does. I am the kind of person who is REALLY athletic, and that is what he mostly likes me for, and because i am not like the rest of the girls in my class, all flirty and what not. So, how come he doesnt like me, when i am one of the only girls he hangs with and calls, and talks to???? PLEASE HELP!! |
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wjr1991
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| 06/04/2008 10:20 AM |
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dramakween- Yeah, I'd say at least I'm pretty oblivious to it :-) Honestly, I think that lying about your tastes is probably really bad... I know that I'm musically inclined, and so if I know that a certain girl says she likes a certain kind of music, I will probably talk to her about it- and I would not be impressed if she claimed to like a style of music, but actually didn't really like it, and as a result, probably knew little about it... although I guess that would kinda be a strong indicator that she "liked" me..
About the flushing/stuttering, does that also include talking haltingly? |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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wjr1991
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| 06/04/2008 11:46 AM |
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Rachel Ann- I'm kinda assuming your in high school, this being the teen forum, so my advise to you would be not to kill yourself with worry about him. Simply be the best friend to him you can be, and remain "available" to and for him if you're seriously interested in him. (however that's probably best done without his knowing- if he finds out that you're holding out for him from you or someone else, he's probably going to feel extremely guilty if he isn't, or doesn't say he is- however if he figures it out on his own, he's probably going to think it's really cool/amazing and is more likely to feel attracted towards you)
But frankly, unless you're very sure he's the guy for you (I mean, you've prayed about it, talked to your parents about it, and you and they have peace with it), I'd be as reserved about it as possible. (note, I'm not saying it's wrong to like him or anything, but just don't go out of your way to show him you "like" him, and don't go crazy over him) From what you say about him, it sounds like he's not interested in a girlfriend at all, so like I said, just be patient, and available, and open and honest with him- if you really think he's the guy for you, and you're the girl for him, then develop the traits he'd want in a wife... but make sure that's really you, and you're not acting for him. Eventually, when he's ready to have a girlfriend or look at getting married, he'll know you have what he's looking for, and your friendship will be strong enough that he can know he won't wreck it if he were to ask you out and you weren't interested- if you weren't interested, you'd say so, and still be his friend... basically, be an awesome friend, and stay available for him... God will either make it work out, or replace him with someone better. |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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prettygirl
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| 06/08/2008 5:55 PM |
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| a lot of girls have a hard time even talking to a guy we like, especially if we aren't the outgoing type. don't be afraid to come over and say hi, ask us a few questions. if we can't hardly talk straight around you, that's a good indication we like you, or are flattered that you would talk to us because we're insecure |
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JoJo
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| 06/10/2008 5:17 AM |
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well... In my experience with guys who have asked me out... They probably try to talk to you and mostly will have akward conversations... especially if you like them back (in my friends case...) also if his "boys" are around they might say something like "look who's workin it" or "*insert name here*'s pimpin it" well, thats what New Zealanders say...
um... he asks you questions about you, like favorite things or if he hasnt seen you in ages (as my brother says...) he'll shyly ask you how you've been...
aparently akward conversations are a good indicator (unless he's got speech problems, which would mean he just doent talk fast...)
In the case of Girls liking Boys... we tend to go shy around the guy we like, or show off... maybe talk a little too loud around him (especially if we are not actually talking to the guy at the moment...) We try to sit near/be close to that guy... we do things for them, like I'd buy him lunch or pay for him to do to the theme park with me...(I actually have done that before... he was totally clueless!) We actually will read up on their favorite band etc, and in my case, Id learn to cook his favorite meal, if i was really serious about him... but most of the time (unless we are desperate or really flirty,) we wont tell a guy that we're interested... like in my case, Id rather be friends with a guy forever, then tell him how I feel and lose him as a friends, even if he may like me back... If you're in a band or a sports team, she'll come watch you and probably be right at the front, so you can see her there. Also, if they like to talk, they may start to talk a little too fast and mix up their words... and if you're upset, she'llbe right there to make sure you're o.k. (unless she's too shy...)
i hope that helps... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 06/20/2008 1:48 PM |
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okay, i'll have to agree that probably the only way you can seriously, honestly know a guy likes you is by them coming right up to you, IN PERSON, and telling you they like you. NOT online, NOT one if their friends doing it for them. that is NOT ligit, at all. when my boyfriend [before we were dating, i mean] first told me he liked me, it was online. and i have to admit, i didn't think much of it, because we're such a technological generation! but then i sat back that night and thought about it. how could i let him slide on that?! there's not way i was gonna! so the next time i saw him in person, i challenged him to tell me. we made it into kind of game, of who would say who liked who first. he won, of course. and it made me feel awesome. but my point is, DON'T let them slide by, by just telling you online constantly or whatever. they certainly have the manliness in them to tell you in person, ladies!
about us liking the guys, well. i'm just myself, basically. i was good friends with my boyfriend for around 8 months before he liked me. i liked him the entire time and he knew it, but we kept the feelings at bay. he knew God didn't want him dating at that time in his life and, sure i won't say that was perfectly fine with me, but i knew it wasn't in God's plan for us yet. and since i was, and am, myself around him, i know he likes me for simply me. not because of my makeup, because he's seen me without hardly any on. not because of my hair, because he's seen it unwashed when he's decided to come over unexpectedly. sure, i take care of myself like fywo tells us to and i love to look nice for him. but i know if i would wear sweats, a baggy tshirt, and no makeup, he'd still call me beautiful.
fywo can't stress it enough and neither can i, just be yourself, girls. God created you in His image, and if a guy can't see that beauty in you, he sure as heck ain't worth it!
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Katie Ann
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| 08/30/2008 5:49 PM |
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Katie Ann
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| 08/30/2008 6:08 PM |
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| sorry i like this guy named ben. I have know him for 4 years and only get to see him when i visit my grandparent. He is the pastors son. I never like him before till this year. He did this total gentalmen thing and that is what put me over.I have been watching him over the years. He is always a gentleman to ever girl even his sisters. He has never hit a girl and will help them if they look like they need help. He is always very kind gentle and sweet to his mom. He does tease his sisters but never mean to them. He likes going to church and doing stuff like that. He is a very hard worker. He is the guy that fit my "potential" list. I told him i liked him and he almost did not say anything cuz he was afraid he would hurt me. But he did tell me he does not like me but wants to be friends. Did i blow my chance of him ever liking me cuz i told him right off? I have never had a guy that liked me that i know of and that hurts. O lots of people tell me how pretty and beautiful i am but if i am why does a guy not like me? I have always been know as the tomboy does that have some play in that? I am easy to get along with i know that cuz i have no enemies and i am always quick to forgive so what is my problem? I am not skinny but not really obese i am working on the but still. Am i missing something? please help me! |
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Hope139
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| 08/30/2008 9:24 PM |
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| Aw, my heart goes out to you, because I remember being the exact place you're in, although to tell you the truth I still don't know of any guy that has ever liked me. You are NOT missing anything, God has made you just the way you are(I know, it sounds cliche, but it's true) and He doesn't want you changing anything about you just to get a guy. In His timing He will bring the guy who will love you exactly the way you are and it will be more than worth the wait. Hang in there! If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me! |
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May the Lord bless and keep you, may His face shine upon you, and be gracious and give you peace. |
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JoJo
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| 08/30/2008 10:45 PM |
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Being a tomboy has NOTHING to do with weither guys will like you or not... I am a tomboy, and my guy friends tell me that they love that they can talk to me about guy stuff like wrestling, videogames etc and I'll actually know what they're talking about etc. They get annoyed when girls say "ew, videogames... lets talk about something other that *GUY* stuff." Being a tomboy is awesome!!!
He either is not the right guy for you, isn't ready to be your bf, or is totally blind...  lol.
No honestly, dont take it personally when guys dont like you, it just means they cant see what an awesome girl you are. I mean with what you've just said, you sound like an awesome godly young woman who knows exactically what godly characteristics to look for in a guy. That is great! and just like courtney says It will be worth the wait when you do meet mr perfect! I know its hard and it hurts. it reminds me of a Jump5 song called "Beautiful To Me" read all the lyrics! The bridge says "I know that it hurts, But I know what you're worth! A picture of perfection by design, and you are mine!!" God thinks you're awesome! If any guy thinks less of you, He's not worth it! I have problems with that too, like I've never had a bf, but looking back (I am 19...) Im so glad I didnt have lots of BF's because it will just make the relationship between me and my future husband even more awesome because He'll have been (hopefully) my first bf ever! how cool would that be, to say to your husband that he was the first guy you ever kissed??
Anyway, I hope it helps! You can message me too. anytime!!  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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wjr1991
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| 09/02/2008 1:38 PM |
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Katie Ann- Jojo's right, being a tomboy has nothing to do with whether guys will like you or not... a particular guy, it might, but there are definitely guys out there who prefer tomboys- so no, it doesn't ruin your chances with us.
And again, if he doesn't like you, either he's not the right guy, or it's not the right time.
I have more to say about it, but wanted you to know that much is true.
Oh, since he's still willing to be friends I don't think all hope's lost of his ever "liking" you, but I would highly recommend that you not tell a guy directly that you "like" him unless he asks. (I'll explain why later) |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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wjr1991
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| 09/02/2008 11:36 PM |
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Katie Ann,
By the way, I'm sorry that didn't go so well for you, and raised all those questions for you... I'll try to answer the questions as best I can, and I hope it helps somewhat...
Did you blow your chance? Maybe- only if he's strongly turned off by girls starting things. Honestly, if I had a gal friend of mine tell me she "liked" me unprompted, I would probably cut our friendship way back... because I don't really like girls making the first move like that... I think it's a common male thing- if you've read the book, it's probably in there somewhere, about the "initiator" role that's fixed in a guy's personality... that's why I was saying you shouldn't say that you like a guy unprompted... like, him asking or telling you that he likes you first... I guess we just don't really appreciate you jumping the gun- if we haven't made it plain, we're either too shy to (our problem) or we have some reason for not doing that (ranging from not particularly "liking" you, to trying to decide if we really do enough to make the relational jump)
I am sorry it hurts that you've never known of a guy who "liked" you... I've known that from a guy's side too... although I can say that even after you find out someone has, insecurity over your appearance doesn't leave. But, even if a guy does think you're cute/pretty/etc. he may well not let it on... and if you're young, that's not a real problem... at 17 I'm trying to refrain from letting myself get romantically attached to any girl, because I'm not able to follow through to marriage (or even think about that- so I can't really be serious about dating, so I feel like I shouldn't even get to a point where I want to) so the guys who like you may just be stuffing it... we have a great ability to do that.
And whether or not we tend to "like" tomboys depends on the guy... that's not usually a turn-off to me, and when it's not extreme I think it's not usually one, so... no, I doubt that's it.
So, a guy's advise to you would be to keep up the work on being as physically attractive as is reasonable (yes, there is such a thing as overkill)... you know, a healthy weight, some time at the mirror, but don't let it be an obsession. You don't want that to be all there is of you, honestly... (there are girls like that aplenty in Hollywood) but you do want to pay attention to it.
More importantly, become a woman worth his noticing and pursuing... or, as somebody said somewhere, a woman whose heart is so after God's that a man must be after God's heart to capture hers... that's the best you can do- and it's interesting, the less you continue to care about Ben's attention, the more attractive you'll be to him.
I hope that helps- God bless! |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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prettygirl
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| 09/04/2008 5:21 PM |
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| i totally understand how you feel katie ann! i used to think i was ugly and had never had a guy like me. then freshman year there was this really awesome guy that told me i was beautiful and i almost cried because i didn't believe it. i know it doesn't make it all better to just say that you'll eventually have someone like you etc., even though it is true. continue to be yourself and seek after God, no matter what anyone says. it can be so hard, i know. but in the long run, it's totally worth it! |
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maddiegirl
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| 09/15/2008 6:11 PM |
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Answer to the orginal question:
I'd say if he stares at you a lot and smiles/talks to you a lot.If he seems really interested in you.If he makes jokes with you.I usually ask my brother if a guy likes me, and he'll tell me yes or no.That comes in handy quite a bit.(-: My secret weapon, sort of. |
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caleb
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| 09/16/2008 6:39 PM |
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| im a guy and i would have to say if he spends alot of time with you or if he doesn't make eye contact alot when he talks to you he likes you, guys don't want to do/say somthing stupid when they like a girl and want to tell them that they like you. they kinda want a girl to make the first move rather than they making the first move. i can't say that this is what all guy think but i can say that is what i think. i hope this helps and may god be with you =) |
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