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maddiegirl
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| 06/10/2009 3:52 PM |
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There's probably another forum on this and it discussed this a little in the FYWO book, but just to clarify and maybe get more ideas:
One of my friends recently asked this of me, and I need every1s help:
What are some things that girls can do to appear more attractive to guys?
In the book it keeps it general, mostly talks about being a healthy weight and taking care of yourself, but what else? Because I know some girls who are and do both of those things and still feel like guys don't like them. So can you give me
A: some appearance things girls can do besides healthy weight and taking care of yourself
B: some characteristics - like friendliness or etc.
C: some things they could do - is hugging a no-no or is it a good thing? should they openly be aggressive (which im not) with the guys, or hang back and let the guys do it?
Thanks everyone!! if some1 has another topic lyk this 1, sorry.  |
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David
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| 06/10/2009 4:34 PM |
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A. Being a healthy weight and taking care of yourself sort of covers it. Dress somewhat nicely, wear a little makeup, those sorts of things. We don't expect you to always have to dress nicely and wear makeup, but if you never do, we'll never really see you in a feminine light. This is just a general rule of thumb and doesn't always apply. Basically, just try to look nice.
B. This is sometimes a bigger deal. Girls definitely need to be friendly. Guys are incredibly nervous around you, and when we try to talk to you and you just stand there and give one word answers, we assume it's because you don't want to talk to us. Now, you might just be nervous too, or be worried you'll say something stupid. But we interpret it as "go away." The kinds of guys who have the confidence (in reality, arrogance) to continually approach you when you act like that are most likely (though not always) completely stuck on themselves. So be nice and friendly. Let the guy know you actually enjoy talking to him.
C. For me, at least, I like hugs. While I hug both my female friends, I also enjoy hugging a potential. I'm just a hugger, so to me it's not a no-no. As far as flirting goes, I think there is a certain level of physical flirting that is appropriate and sometimes even needed. I'm not talking about anything overtly sexual. But, for instance, if you're both standing at a table or something, standing close enough to him where your arms are touching can be a definite sign of interest. Basically this amounts to you are comfortable with physical proximity to him. I know that if I'm sitting somewhere next to a girl and she has her arm brushed up against mine and doesn't move it, it seems to me to be a sign of interest (though I realize it isn't always). You don't want to be so aggressive that you are initiating, but you don't want to be so un-aggressive as to seem uninterested. |
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JoJo
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| 06/10/2009 9:48 PM |
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Um yeah...
I agree with Davids answer, cuz IDK, I tend to feel more confident if I don'tdress like I just woke up and actually take some time to look nice...
With makeup... a little is nice but honest, when i see girls My age, Younger, older, Whatever, wearing a thick layer of makeup, you loook plastic and fake, like you're trying to hide something...
And I'm a girl... haha (As you all know...) 
and work on being polite, there's nothing worse than a girl who disrespects her family and friends... I have a friend who disrespects her father and mother, and it's actually not cool... I feel like slapping her and saying "You're supposed to honour your parents, even if you think they're wrong!"
LOL
otherwise, be yourself and yeah it sounds cliche, but it really is the best thing! |
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Tman
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| 06/18/2009 2:14 PM |
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I guess it is kinda strange how there are some girls that guys find really attractive. But I think that its just how we've been made. And girls the same.
I think you've got the wrong idea if you think guys only like girls who wear make-up, and dress up in really nice clothes. Although this helps, its not the major thing a guy looks for. Well atleast speaking from my perspective. I think that these things all probably help to get the guys attention, but I think whether he is attracted to you is based on a range of different reasons that are hard to define and different in every circumstance.
At least for me, there was this one girl I had seen round uni, she was in a few of my classes and I really thought she was attractive. I was trying to get to know her a bit better, trying to talk to her whenever I saw her and just be friendly. But then as we talked, she would constantly swear and like was kinda intense. So that kinda surprised me, and I think my attraction kinda decreased over time.
So basically, I think that sure dress up. Be confident in your clothes, style and make-up. This may help in getting the guy to notice you. But the major thing is to have a neat personality. Be kind, loving, confident, fun loving. The guy will notice you, and if you have a great personality, he'll be way more attracted to you and won't be so scared asking you out cause he'll be like "This girl is so nice that I'm willing to take the risk asking her out, she's not some Russian Ice Queen that can freeze my heart, and smash it into a million pieces." |
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JoJo
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| 06/19/2009 4:58 AM |
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russian ice queen??
LOL never heard that one before...
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Lizzie
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| 07/02/2009 12:02 PM |
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1. Do not over-apply makeup. From what I've heard, guys dislike this. It comes off as insecure.
2. Try to smile more.
3. As a general rule, wear skirts at or below the knee. Skirts above the knee attract the wrong kind of attention and make it hard on guys.
4. Use your personality to grab guys' attention. If you are always truly you, it's easier for guys to know what kind of a person you are (and to know whether or not they like you).
And most importantly...
5. Look around at what everyone else is doing, wearing, etc. Then...don't do it. If they're wearing super high heels, wear heels half that height. If they're wearing a bikini, wear a one piece or shorts with a T-shirt. You will stand out without even trying to, and guys will know right away that you are confident with who you are and that you have a definite standard for yourself regardless of what others think of you. |
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clare
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| 07/03/2009 1:00 AM |
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| Yeah that is all really true!! |
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maddiegirl
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| 07/06/2009 8:19 PM |
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| thanx every1!!! good advice (: |
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