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if uturnchic
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| 10/01/2009 12:52 PM |
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Ok here's the deal. There's this guy in my church, let's just say his name is Jon. Jon is 12 years old, and I'm 14.
Back in June, I was at a garage sale with quite a few of my friends to earn money to go to youth camp. Jon was acting a little weird. My friend then came up to me and out of Jon's earshot told me that Jon had told her that he liked me.
I didn't see him again until the last saturday of June when we were at a car wash together with the same friends. We were on seperate teams, but I helped his team with one car. He kept following me, so I thought my friend was probably right.
Over the next month, I started to like him. I haven't seen him since then, and its October now. He has football practice 4 days a week, so I understand that. But then another one of my friends (who goes to school with Jon) came up to me and told me she liked Jon, and that he had told her that he liked her. Now she says she likes some other guy, but I'm not sure.
I'm not even sure if Jon ever liked me, because he never talked to me. This next Wednesday, he and his brother are coming to youth group after not being there for almost 4 months. The girl who said he liked her will also be there on Wednesday. I don't know if either still likes the other. What happens if Jon talks to me and she's right there?
What should I do?
I know its a little complicated, but I would appreciate any advice I can get! |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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SamiD
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| 10/01/2009 5:04 PM |
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Hey! I would love to answer your question but, do you happen to like "Jon" more than a friend? A Lot depends if you are able to date and if he is. The age at the moment right now may not be appropriate, because after all he is 12. More information would help me a little to help you.  Some of my questions again is: Do you like him? Are you guys aloud to date? Is it appropriate, convient for both of you? I'm a little confused with the situation as you can se haha lol...... :p <3Live, Laugh, Love, Believe- SamiD <3 |
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if uturnchic
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| 10/01/2009 6:49 PM |
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Oh sorry I should have elaborated a little. I kinda like "Jon", but I haven't seen him since July 5th. He has football so I can understand why he can't come to youth on Wednesdays, but he doesn't even come on Sundays. I really want to talk to him. I am homeschooled, but the other school is in the same classes that he is in public school. They even live like 5 miles from each other. I feel like he doesn't care.
He's allowed to date, but I am not until I am 16. My parents know he likes me, but they don't know that I like him. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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Lindsey
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| 10/02/2009 6:22 AM |
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I understand what situation your in.There is this guy I like and he is allowed to date but I'm not allowed until I'm 16,but he still likes me even though I told him I wasnt aloud to date.If anything he likes me even more than he use to and we still talk alot and hang around each other.If he talks to you about it infront of your friend I think you should still talk to him infront of your friend.after all werent you the first one that liked him?She should be a good friend and respect that.
In Christ
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if uturnchic
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| 10/02/2009 10:47 AM |
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| Yeah I hope she is a good friend about it. She was the first one to know how I kinda liked him. I don't know if Jon will talk to me this Wednesday, but if he does, I hope she doesn't care. I really want to talk to him without alot of people around us. I want to find out the truth about this whole thing. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/02/2009 12:13 PM |
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| well, seeing as you're not allowed to date for another 2 years, I would take this very slowly. 2 years is a LONG TIME when you're "in cahoots" with someone, but you can't do anything about it. and even in 2 years, if he still likes you, would he be allowed to date at 14? to be scientific about all this (I hate to say that, but I believe this wholeheartedly), guys mature much slower than girls. I believe the exact age is about 2 years behind. so at 16, he'll still have the mindset of a 14 year old. I'm definitely not saying that every guy on the face of the Earth fits this description. but with every guy I've met, it's true! and I keep that in mind, not to be judgemental with guys, but in order to give them more grace. |
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if uturnchic
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| 10/02/2009 1:17 PM |
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| Yeah thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind. I really appreciate it! |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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SamiD
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| 10/03/2009 3:20 PM |
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| Than personally, I would take the time to get to know him more, the next time you see him you should get a couple of friends together and all hang out as a group. Take the 2 years to get to know him. Time will fly by, its not that far away. Become friends. Find little ways to spend time to get to know eachother, and see if at 16 you could possibly imagine dating him. It might just be a crush after all you never know. I wish you the best of luck!! <3 Live, Laugh, Love, Believe- SamiD <3 |
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if uturnchic
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| 10/03/2009 4:53 PM |
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| Thank You. I hope that over the next two years I can get to know him a little better. Even if there happens to be nothing there, at least we would be friends. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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clare
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| 10/04/2009 7:35 PM |
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I am a little concerned about the age factor here. I don't want to be a wet blanket, but you and esp he are a little young. Don't get heart broken if you can avoid it and tell your parents you like him they will have really good advice even if you don't exactly agree now! |
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clare
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| 10/04/2009 7:36 PM |
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| I am a little concerned about the age factor here. I don't want to be a wet blanket, but you and esp he are a little young. Don't get heart broken if you can avoid it and tell your parents you like him they will have really good advice even if you don't exactly agree now! |
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if uturnchic
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| 10/05/2009 10:26 AM |
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| Yeah I know we are a little young. I just want to be friends for now, but I'm not exactly sure what to do if it ever comes up again. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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Lindsey
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| 10/07/2009 8:54 AM |
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Just tell him you have to remain friends for now and if he really likes you he will wait.Its better to be friends then to be strangers.Beleive me,I had to do the same thing and he and I still hang around and talk all the time.We get closer this way.Hope this helps |
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if uturnchic
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| 10/08/2009 10:24 AM |
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| Yes thank you all for your help. He and his brother did not come to youth group last night, because his brother had a football game. So this gives me one more week to figure out exactly what I will say to him. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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Lindsey
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| 10/28/2009 10:18 AM |
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| Well good luck!!!! =D |
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if uturnchic
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| 11/05/2009 3:28 PM |
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| Ok he finally came to church this past sunday, but he wouldnt even talk to me. But you know what, I'm gonna put my life in God's hands and trust that he'll work things out. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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Natasha
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| 11/07/2009 9:57 AM |
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Maybe "Jon" likes yr friend & only said it way u to just talk 2 her. I know it sound complicated but, Guy's r just created that way! |
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if uturnchic
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| 11/07/2009 7:40 PM |
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| huh that is an opinion. God will show me what he wants me to do. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 11/17/2009 9:17 AM |
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Posted By emilyjanelle on 10/02/2009 12:13 PM
well, seeing as you're not allowed to date for another 2 years, I would take this very slowly. 2 years is a LONG TIME when you're "in cahoots" with someone, but you can't do anything about it. and even in 2 years, if he still likes you, would he be allowed to date at 14? to be scientific about all this (I hate to say that, but I believe this wholeheartedly), guys mature much slower than girls. I believe the exact age is about 2 years behind. so at 16, he'll still have the mindset of a 14 year old. I'm definitely not saying that every guy on the face of the Earth fits this description. but with every guy I've met, it's true! and I keep that in mind, not to be judgemental with guys, but in order to give them more grace. I really hate that sterotype - There is one girl that uses this one all the time, she is a year younger than me and hasn't matured at all. I asked her out 2 years ago, she still won't get over it (Because, I'm a nerd). I notice I have the maturity of girls about a year older than me.
But, on the other hand that sterotype is so true in MOST cases. There are a TON of inmature guys. I know a lot of them.
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if uturnchic
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| 11/24/2009 2:24 PM |
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| oh i know some immature girls and some immature boys so I can side with you there. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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